The most common reasons given for the breakdown of marriages or live-in partnerships in Britain are communication problems and growing apart, according to analysis by UCL researchers of the latest National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (Natsal-3).
[...] Natsal is the largest scientific study of sexual health lifestyles in Britain. It is carried out by UCL, the London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine and NatCen Social Research [sic]
Natsal is run every 10 years, and includes a representative sample of men and women resident in Britain aged between 16 and 74. Natsal-3 was carried out between 2010 and 2012.
The study focused on the responses of 706 men and 1254 women to questions about their reasons for breakdown of a marriage or cohabiting relationship in the past 5 years.
[UCL is, of course, University College London. It has as part of one of its faculties the above-mentioned school.]
I would have guessed footie.
(Score: 2) by fliptop on Tuesday March 28 2017, @05:07PM (4 children)
This was the main cause of the demise of my marriage, but because she hid it from me and lied about it for years I couldn't trust her after it all hit the fan. So the lack of straightforward communication on her part compounded the problem and made it impossible to reconcile.
Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.
(Score: 2) by Grishnakh on Tuesday March 28 2017, @08:08PM (3 children)
It was the main cause for the demise for mine too. The problem there was that, fundamentally, we had very different approaches to managing finances and spending money. She didn't hide it from me, but basically hounded me on things and I gave in.
The lesson I've learned there is that you should never, ever marry someone who manages money in a different way than you do. It's the #1 most important factor in choosing a marriage partner.
(Score: 2) by fliptop on Tuesday March 28 2017, @08:22PM (1 child)
The lesson I learned is just don't trust them w/ the checkbook. The Ronald Reagan approach (trust, but verify) would've worked but I was busy w/ my business and figured she'd do what was best for the family.
The problem w/ your assessment is it's not something you notice about someone right away, especially when you get married in your 20's.
Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.
(Score: 2) by Grishnakh on Tuesday March 28 2017, @09:47PM
Yep, you're right about not noticing it right away, esp. when you're young. At my age, and after going through a marriage ruined largely by finances, I'm very mindful of it, and am currently dating someone that seems to be very frugal like myself. Her favorite store is Costco... and she paid for her car with cash.
(Score: 2) by FatPhil on Wednesday March 29 2017, @06:49AM
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