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The most common reasons given for the breakdown of marriages or live-in partnerships in Britain are communication problems and growing apart, according to analysis by UCL researchers of the latest National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (Natsal-3).
[...] Natsal is the largest scientific study of sexual health lifestyles in Britain. It is carried out by UCL, the London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine and NatCen Social Research [sic]
Natsal is run every 10 years, and includes a representative sample of men and women resident in Britain aged between 16 and 74. Natsal-3 was carried out between 2010 and 2012.
The study focused on the responses of 706 men and 1254 women to questions about their reasons for breakdown of a marriage or cohabiting relationship in the past 5 years.
[UCL is, of course, University College London. It has as part of one of its faculties the above-mentioned school.]
I would have guessed footie.
(Score: 2) by bzipitidoo on Tuesday March 28 2017, @07:05PM (6 children)
LOL. I speak from personal experience. Seems women share a lot of mental habits.
(Score: 2) by kaszz on Wednesday March 29 2017, @06:48AM (5 children)
Any ideas on how to beat the system regarding those things?
(Score: 2) by bob_super on Wednesday March 29 2017, @04:08PM (2 children)
The only way to avoid losses is not to play.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday March 30 2017, @05:52AM (1 child)
So your saying that marriage is like: "Global Thermonuclear War?"
Sounds about right to me.
(Score: 2) by kaszz on Thursday March 30 2017, @03:17PM
"Local Chapter 11 wherever it entangles" :p
Bad for relationships, economy, time etc. Missed anything? ;-)
Marriage and kids are obligations without enough ROI.
(Score: 2) by bzipitidoo on Thursday March 30 2017, @05:07PM (1 child)
I've been trying to figure that out myself. It starts by understanding women in general, as best as men can. First, need a thick skin. Stay calm. Recognize the petty provocations as petty, and let them go. You can still suffer death by a thousand cuts, and it's a difficult judgment call to decide when enough is enough.
I've read, and it sounds plausible, that women are more devious than men because they have to be, as they can't compete with men on brute strength. So they're always trying to manipulate, always testing the waters, gathering information on how men react. Putting on an act is another thing they tend to do very well. Women's wiles. They've spent their whole lives honing those skills. Most are masters at it. But they do sometimes get too obvious. Perhaps sometimes they have so many acts going on that they start losing track, can't juggle all the roles convincingly. You might think that ought to make women better poker players than men, but it seems not. One pattern I've noticed is constant attempts to convince men that whatever they don't like is their own fault. Once I was dumped by a woman who tried to frame it as actually me dumping her, and I've seen that happen between other men and women. She dumps him and tries to make it look like he dumped her. Or she wants to dump him but instead tries to behave obnoxiously and crazily so that he'll decide to dump her first. It's much safer for her to get him to think he did the rejecting, rather than risk him becoming enraged at being rejected, and maybe beating her up.
The only explanations of women's behavior I find really accurate and convincing are scientific ones. Obvious, but worth spelling out again and again that a baby is a much greater burden for a woman than for a man. He can become a father with as little as 3 minutes of sex, while she can't become a mother without 9 months of enduring a pregnancy, and then perhaps a year of breastfeeding But what does that mean? That little fact of nature shapes the behavior of the 2 sexes profoundly. It means she is not going to be as interested in one night stands as he. Male prostitution is much rarer than female prostitution. She wants a man who will stay with her and who has means. She is also much more interested in a favorable environment, does not want children when times are looking bad. It also means it's a man's lot to ask and ask and ask, and suffer rejection after rejection. A pretty woman doesn't have to ask, has all she can do just to fend off the incessant proposals from all the men. When she does ask, she can be fairly confident the answer will be yes. Hence the expression "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned."
(Score: 2) by kaszz on Thursday March 30 2017, @05:33PM
Firewall all guilting and personal emotional interference?
I suppose firm limits may be useful, ie commit to them.
And women has a larger physical burden but in the modern setting they can fulfill their biological drive by getting pregnant and the man pays for it all. But there's only a legal obligation for the man to pay, no obligation for the other party to reciprocate. So you end up with bills, no contact with children and not intimacy.