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posted by martyb on Friday June 30 2017, @02:26AM   Printer-friendly
from the Search-the-personals? dept.

Individuals in polyamorous relationships report more commitment and investment with their primary partners and report more time spent on sex with their secondary partners, a new study authored by Western researchers has found.

While previous research suggests that consensually non-monogamous relationships do not significantly differ from monogamous relationships on a number of relationship-quality indicators, this is one of the first studies to examine potential differences in the relationship dynamics between an individual's multiple partners, said lead author Rhonda Balzarini, a PhD candidate in the Psychology.

The authors asked 1,308 people in online questionnaires (drawn from polyamorous affinity groups on social media) about the dynamics of their polyamorous relationships.

"The study suggests people who are 'primary' partners – those who share a household and finances, for example – experience greater commitment and investment in the relationship. However, the secondary partnership experiences greater proportion of time spent on sex, and this remains a factor even when we account for relationship length and living arrangements," she said.

Does this explain why kings and sultans had harems?


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  • (Score: 3, Interesting) by Gaaark on Friday June 30 2017, @02:43AM (2 children)

    by Gaaark (41) on Friday June 30 2017, @02:43AM (#533223) Journal

    Snow..... Comments?

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  • (Score: 3, Interesting) by Snow on Friday June 30 2017, @04:37PM (1 child)

    by Snow (1601) on Friday June 30 2017, @04:37PM (#533545) Journal

    Haha.

    I need to do another journal entry. It's been a while but I've been pretty busy. I suppose I'm more poly in theory, and less so in practice. It's really difficult to find secondary partners, although I have had some success.

    I can say that when I am dating another woman, my relationship with my wife improves. We have something new to talk about, and that inspires deeper conversations (rather than just the normal 'how was your day'). The positive energy that comes from meeting someone new does boil over into my relationship with my wife. Just little things like cuddling more or little touches.

    While I can't be certain, I feel that there is a good chance that opening up the relationship actually saved and improved the relationship. I was feeling really trapped, and without something being done, I think that feeling would have intensified and would have eventually caused the relationship to end. Opening up allowed me the freedom that I craved. Even though in practice I rarely am able to line up a date, just knowing that the possibility is there makes a big difference.

    It's like a dog and it's kennel. Keep the dog locked in the kennel, it hates it and it just wants to get out. But, if you leave the door open, the dog is able to wander around. They may realize that the kennel is warm, safe, and a great place to sleep. Instead of having to stay in the kennel, the dog now sleeps there by choice.

    • (Score: 2) by Gaaark on Saturday July 01 2017, @12:17AM

      by Gaaark (41) on Saturday July 01 2017, @12:17AM (#533765) Journal

      Ha, reminds me of our one dog: an outdoor dog for reals... there was one BITTER, BITTER cold night. We brought the dog into the house (normally it didn't want to be inside) so it could get warm.

      All it did was whine and want to go back out, so we let it back out. Happy as a clam, that dog. Used to sit on top of it's dog house like Snoopy.

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