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Individuals in polyamorous relationships report more commitment and investment with their primary partners and report more time spent on sex with their secondary partners, a new study authored by Western researchers has found.
While previous research suggests that consensually non-monogamous relationships do not significantly differ from monogamous relationships on a number of relationship-quality indicators, this is one of the first studies to examine potential differences in the relationship dynamics between an individual's multiple partners, said lead author Rhonda Balzarini, a PhD candidate in the Psychology.
The authors asked 1,308 people in online questionnaires (drawn from polyamorous affinity groups on social media) about the dynamics of their polyamorous relationships.
"The study suggests people who are 'primary' partners – those who share a household and finances, for example – experience greater commitment and investment in the relationship. However, the secondary partnership experiences greater proportion of time spent on sex, and this remains a factor even when we account for relationship length and living arrangements," she said.
Does this explain why kings and sultans had harems?
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Friday June 30 2017, @07:58AM (1 child)
Think back on the relationships you've had.
Remember the different things you hated the most with each - imagine having to pick every one of those.
Remember the frustration and/or annoyance over all the things they insisted on doing - imagine the load of all of this.
Remember the feeling of helplessness when your partner was in trouble or hurt and you couldn't be there - imagine if you couldn't be there for multiple people at the same time.
You know that kinky desire your partner has that you don't enjoy - imagine having to experience it for multiple partners.
The mismatch in sexual urges - image it multiplied many times over.
Imagine having someone you hurt and who hurts you back for revenge when your heart just has been seized by a new relationship.
Imagine the discomfort in knowing that many partners will be alone if something bad happens to you.
Now see if you can imagine the appeal of mono relationships
(Score: 2) by Aiwendil on Friday June 30 2017, @08:27AM
Was waiting for that one - yes, that is what happens if either communication breaks down, or (occasionally) if only one is poly, or if you pick a partner that doesn't fit into the group. Which also is why poly is just as bad for mono-people as mono is for poly-people.
Basically it all comes down to your personality, willingness to think things through and careful planning.