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Study Suggests People Who Stay in Unsatisfying Relationships View Leaving as Bad for Their Partner

posted by chromas on Tuesday October 23 2018, @02:46AM   

AnonTechie writes:

Why do people stay in unsatisfying romantic relationships? A new study suggests it may be because they view leaving as bad for their partner. The study, being published in the November 2018 issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, explored the possibility that people deciding whether to end a relationship consider not only their own desires but also how much they think their partner wants and needs the relationship to continue.

Study that finds it's not just the investment of time, resources and emotion

[Source]: University of Utah

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• Re:"things like common goals" Re:"things like common goals" (Score: 3, Insightful) by HiThere on Tuesday October 23 2018, @04:04PM (1 child)

  by HiThere (866) on Tuesday October 23 2018, @04:04PM (#752510) Journal

  I've just *got* to respond here. A relationship depends on a mix of shared goals and different skills...and time spent together companionably. Also on working through relationship problems satisfactorily...and there will be problems. The ways we used might not help someone else, but we used to always discuss problems with the shared goal of defusing the emotions. And tell her frequently and explicitly and verbally that you love her. That felt really strange at first, but it turned out to be quite important.

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• "tell her verbally that you love her" (Score: 3, Informative) by MichaelDavidCrawford on Tuesday October 23 2018, @04:11PM

  by MichaelDavidCrawford (2339) <mdcrawford@gmail.com> on Tuesday October 23 2018, @04:11PM (#752512) Homepage Journal

  There are some people who when in a relationship are simply incapable of doing that.

  One such was a good friend of mine who wrecked his car while driving drunk. He was sentenced to among other things alcoholism treatment. It was during one such therapy session that he said "I love you" for the very first time to his girlfriend of five years.

  Back in the day Bonita and I were down to our last twenty dollars, we had very little food and no heating oil in the middle of a New England winter. She was just freaking, she asked me to go out and buy some food with that twenty. Do you want to know what I actually did?

  I bought her a dozen roses. Best decision I ever made.

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