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Anthony D'Ambrosio writes at USA Today that marriage seems like a pretty simple concept — fall in love and share your life together. Our great-grandparents did it, our grandparents followed suit, and for many of us, our parents did it as well. So why is marriage so difficult for the millennial generation?
"You want to know why your grandmother and grandfather just celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary? Because they weren't scrolling through Instagram worrying about what John ate for dinner. They weren't on Facebook criticizing others. They weren't on vacation sending Snapchats to their friends." According to D'Ambrosio, we've developed relationships with things, not each other. "Ninety-five percent of the personal conversations you have on a daily basis occur through some type of technology. We've removed human emotion from our relationships, and we've replaced it colorful bubbles," writes D'Ambrosio. "We've forgotten how to communicate yet expect healthy marriages. How is it possible to grow and mature together if we barely speak?"
D'Ambrosio writes that another factor is that our desire for attention outweighs our desire to be loved and that social media has given everyone an opportunity to be famous. "Attention you couldn't dream of getting unless you were celebrity is now a selfie away. Post a picture, and thousands of strangers will like it. Wear less clothing, and guess what? More likes," writes D'Ambrosio.
"If you want to love someone, stop seeking attention from everyone because you'll never be satisfied with the attention from one person." Finally D'Ambrosio says the loss of privacy has contributed to the demise of marriage. "We've invited strangers into our homes and brought them on dates with us. We've shown them our wardrobe, drove with them in our cars, and we even showed them our bathing suits," writes D'Ambrosio. "The world we live in today has put roadblocks in the way of getting there and living a happy life with someone. Some things are in our control, and unfortunately, others are not."
(Score: 2) by DeathMonkey on Saturday April 11 2015, @05:43PM
Our great-grandparents did it, our grandparents followed suit, and for many of us, our parents did it as well. So why is marriage so difficult for the millennial generation?
Let's lament the downfall of civilization due to the younger generation, for the millionth time in history... Or, maybe "common sense" isn't.
The Divorce Surge Is Over, but the Myth Lives On [nytimes.com]
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday April 11 2015, @07:13PM
The divorce surge is over, but the average age at first marriage continues to grow: people are putting off getting married. In the US, it's now 28; in some European countries it is now in the 30's. There's probably an economic problem behind that, masquerading as an effect of education: the more advanced a society becomes, the more economic expectations are put on a young couple ("Wait until you have a better job, a better home, a better car, etc."), and the longer they wait to get married and start a family. That's already having demographic repercussions in Europe and Japan.
(Score: 2) by maxwell demon on Saturday April 11 2015, @08:55PM
What do you mean, a better job? The average age when people get their first job is growing, as more people go to university.
The Tao of math: The numbers you can count are not the real numbers.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday April 11 2015, @08:59PM
And as more people go to university for the purposes of getting jobs and money, real education is lost and university becomes more expensive and corporate in nature.