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Anthony D'Ambrosio writes at USA Today that marriage seems like a pretty simple concept — fall in love and share your life together. Our great-grandparents did it, our grandparents followed suit, and for many of us, our parents did it as well. So why is marriage so difficult for the millennial generation?
"You want to know why your grandmother and grandfather just celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary? Because they weren't scrolling through Instagram worrying about what John ate for dinner. They weren't on Facebook criticizing others. They weren't on vacation sending Snapchats to their friends." According to D'Ambrosio, we've developed relationships with things, not each other. "Ninety-five percent of the personal conversations you have on a daily basis occur through some type of technology. We've removed human emotion from our relationships, and we've replaced it colorful bubbles," writes D'Ambrosio. "We've forgotten how to communicate yet expect healthy marriages. How is it possible to grow and mature together if we barely speak?"
D'Ambrosio writes that another factor is that our desire for attention outweighs our desire to be loved and that social media has given everyone an opportunity to be famous. "Attention you couldn't dream of getting unless you were celebrity is now a selfie away. Post a picture, and thousands of strangers will like it. Wear less clothing, and guess what? More likes," writes D'Ambrosio.
"If you want to love someone, stop seeking attention from everyone because you'll never be satisfied with the attention from one person." Finally D'Ambrosio says the loss of privacy has contributed to the demise of marriage. "We've invited strangers into our homes and brought them on dates with us. We've shown them our wardrobe, drove with them in our cars, and we even showed them our bathing suits," writes D'Ambrosio. "The world we live in today has put roadblocks in the way of getting there and living a happy life with someone. Some things are in our control, and unfortunately, others are not."
(Score: 0, Troll) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday April 11 2015, @09:19PM
This is one area where African-American society is already decades ahead. The family structure, as understood in White, Hispanic and Asian America, hasn't existed within African-American culture for some time. In this culture, marriage is extremely rare. Single mothers are the norm. Not only are they single mothers, but they typically have children from at least 3 or 4 different men, and sometimes more. These men are typically referred to as "baby daddies", rather than "fathers", because their only involvement in the child's life is at the moment of insemination. Various levels of government then throw bundles and bundles of welfare money at these women, who often use this money to do everything (like buying expensive designer shoes and purses) except properly support their children. The culture you're talking about as if it were going to happen in the future is already here. It has been here for at least a couple of decades, if not longer. Maybe it isn't present within your particular homogenous, white suburb, but it's very real within the southern states of the United States, as well as in predominantly black areas of the nation's major cities.
(Score: 2, Insightful) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday April 11 2015, @11:07PM
> but it's very real within the southern states of the United States, as well as in predominantly black areas of the nation's major cities.
Basically anywhere the government has been stuffing black men into prison such that they can't fulfil the role of father and breadwinner, behind bars or afterwards because of their record. It is no coincidence the change you've described began when the war on drugs started.
(Score: 0, Insightful) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday April 11 2015, @11:22PM
These men don't just end up in jail spontaneously. They commit crimes, often very serious ones, and rightfully end up imprisoned for the criminal behavior they have engaged in.
Why the hell would you even think that men who have never held a legitimate job, who have engaged in various types of crime time and time again, and who have impregnated eight or more different women would ever voluntarily "fulfil the role of father and breadwinner"?
Enough with the obvious bullshit, please.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday April 12 2015, @12:20AM
Terrible crimes like putting certain substances into their own bodies. The horror!
(Score: 0, Troll) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday April 12 2015, @01:47AM
When they're caught with drugs, it's usually a large amount. This is because these drugs are usually for resale, and not for their own personal use. In many cases they're selling these drugs to youth. That's a rather harmful thing to be doing, with an immense social cost.
The proportion of convictions due to drug-related offenses is actually proportionally small compared to convictions for other, much more serious offenses. We're talking about offenses like assault, rape, murder, theft and burglary. Many incidents will include more than one of those crimes, often affecting multiple victims.
You can't possibly pin this all on the government. It's not the government's fault that so many of these men repeatedly act so irresponsibly and so criminally.
(Score: 0, Disagree) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday April 12 2015, @03:15AM
When they're caught with drugs, it's usually a large amount. This is because these drugs are usually for resale, and not for their own personal use.
Oh, no! Not selling drugs! We'd better involve government thugs!
In many cases they're selling these drugs to youth.
Please, no! Anything but the children!
As soon as someone brings up "children" in a discussion about liberties, you know they're authoritarians with an agenda. The drug war is wrong, and I care about adults as much as I do children, so that sort of nonsense won't sway me. If they want to risk taking drugs, then let them; it's a voluntary transaction, especially at first.
Many incidents will include more than one of those crimes, often affecting multiple victims.
And there are also many cases where they will, at first, be arrested for drugs, and then they'll become hardened criminals in jail/prison. Nice going.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday April 12 2015, @03:32AM
My, my, my. You are living in denial, and you pretend to be a Libertarian. My, my, my.
(Score: 0, Disagree) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday April 12 2015, @04:02AM
Pretend? It's neither denial nor a game of pretend. I just don't see why authoritarians want to screw up relatively okay countries like the US and turn them into police states when places like North Korea already exist. Why not just move there?