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Anthony D'Ambrosio writes at USA Today that marriage seems like a pretty simple concept — fall in love and share your life together. Our great-grandparents did it, our grandparents followed suit, and for many of us, our parents did it as well. So why is marriage so difficult for the millennial generation?
"You want to know why your grandmother and grandfather just celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary? Because they weren't scrolling through Instagram worrying about what John ate for dinner. They weren't on Facebook criticizing others. They weren't on vacation sending Snapchats to their friends." According to D'Ambrosio, we've developed relationships with things, not each other. "Ninety-five percent of the personal conversations you have on a daily basis occur through some type of technology. We've removed human emotion from our relationships, and we've replaced it colorful bubbles," writes D'Ambrosio. "We've forgotten how to communicate yet expect healthy marriages. How is it possible to grow and mature together if we barely speak?"
D'Ambrosio writes that another factor is that our desire for attention outweighs our desire to be loved and that social media has given everyone an opportunity to be famous. "Attention you couldn't dream of getting unless you were celebrity is now a selfie away. Post a picture, and thousands of strangers will like it. Wear less clothing, and guess what? More likes," writes D'Ambrosio.
"If you want to love someone, stop seeking attention from everyone because you'll never be satisfied with the attention from one person." Finally D'Ambrosio says the loss of privacy has contributed to the demise of marriage. "We've invited strangers into our homes and brought them on dates with us. We've shown them our wardrobe, drove with them in our cars, and we even showed them our bathing suits," writes D'Ambrosio. "The world we live in today has put roadblocks in the way of getting there and living a happy life with someone. Some things are in our control, and unfortunately, others are not."
(Score: 3, Insightful) by EQ on Saturday April 11 2015, @10:25PM
"and is for some unthinkable reason allowed to come to term" ... unthinkable? Really? What about the basic value of a human life - is that unthinkable? A lot of couples decide to keep their "accidents". I'm glad my folks did. And I kept my unplanned son too. Its not nearly as casual and cavalier a decision once you face it personally -- it can be agonizing. Choice? Yes, that's the law. But morally, there's far more to it than you seem to think, much too important to use such flippant language. Plus about half of the US population would disagree with you there (Pro Choice vs Pro Life split pretty evenly [gallup.com]). Pretty poor and overly broad assumption, and not even needed for you to make your point. Might want to check your biases.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday April 12 2015, @12:12AM
More like freedom vs anti-freedom. I don't like it, so I want government thugs to interfere with other people's personal matters to prevent *them* from doing it too!
(Score: 0, Disagree) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday April 12 2015, @06:42AM
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday April 12 2015, @01:43PM
Damn straight! It horrendous how I can't shoot that guy over there.
You must be in a pretty strange situation if some guy "over there" is actually inside your body. Or maybe he's not, making your example inappropriate and irrelevant to the subject of being able to control your own body.
Though, I did expect someone to reply with such authoritarian garbage, so thanks for being predictable.
(Score: 2) by JNCF on Monday April 13 2015, @04:25PM
I was being a bit flippant for the sake of humor, and I am aware that my biases differ from the general population; I'd be embarrassed if they didn't.
Maybe we have radically different world views that lead us to different valuations of human life. I believe that humans are not fundamentally different than other animals. I understand that a fully functioning, developed human brain is better at some tasks than any other processor we have yet found or made. I also understand that a human embryo is less intelligent and aware than a fully developed pig by any reasonable measures. Since I don't attribute any metaphysical qualities to either animal, from my perspective factory farms seem way more grotesque than abortion clinics.
Most Americans eat pigs that have been kept in conditions we would all call "torture" if humans were being subjected to it. Do you eat pigs that have been tortured to death in factory farms? I won't get offended if you say yes. I won't even get offended if you flippantly joke about it. I understand that you probably have a totally different conception of pigs than I do, and I'm okay with that. I'm not trying to make you feel guilty about supporting the torture-market at all, I'm just using it as an example of something that you might casually brush off as unimportant while other parts of the population see it as a horrible tragedy. That's okay :)
I hope you have a wonderful day, and If you do eat pigs that have been tortured to death I hope they are delicious.