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posted by cmn32480 on Sunday May 10 2015, @08:07PM   Printer-friendly
from the we-all-might-be-in-trouble dept.

The Independent reports:

Psychologist and professor emeritus at Stanford University Phillip Zimbardo (who led the team of researchers who conducted the Stanford Prison Experiment) has made the warnings, which form a major part of his latest book, Man (Dis)Connected.

Zimbardo says (in this TED talk) there is a "crisis" amongst young men, a high number of whom are experiencing a "new form of addiction" to excessive use of pornography and video games. Citing the research he and his team conducted for the book, he says: "It begins to change brain function. It begins to change the reward centre of the brain, and produces a kind of excitement and addiction."

An article from Psychology Today, however, argues that there are no demonstrable scientific links between porn consumption and the disputed phenomenon called 'Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction.'

Could this problem be manifesting itself as the rise of the Hikikomori?

 
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  • (Score: 5, Interesting) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @08:20PM

    by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @08:20PM (#181154)

    Porn and video games don't judge a man based on the amount of money he has. Porn and video games don't conspire to get men fired for sexual harassment. Porn and video games don't give preferential treatment to female job applicants. Porn and video games don't pretend to want equality with men while secretly seeking revenge.

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  • (Score: 4, Funny) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @08:24PM

    by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @08:24PM (#181159)

    Inferior men aren't a new phenomenon. They have always existed. In the past, they would find companionship with other men. For example, they would serve together, 50 or more men, on sailing ships, fishing ships, and cargo ships. There would be hundreds of thousands of these ships throughout the world in the past, all crewed by men, and only men. You'd have 50 men, all big and strong from hauling cargo and anchor all day, finding solace in one another's bodies. They had no need for women. All of their satisfaction was derived from their fellow man. They weren't homosexuals. They were just men who were fond of the company of other men, out in the open seas, never seeing women for years on end.

    • (Score: 1, Touché) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @08:28PM

      by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @08:28PM (#181160)

      Dude, we're totally not homo. Women and semen just don't mix, you know?

      • (Score: 2, Interesting) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @08:47PM

        by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @08:47PM (#181177)

        Ironically, most women do not like semen. They despise the taste. They do not like it in their hair, nor on their bosom.

        • (Score: 2, Touché) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:02PM

          by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:02PM (#181189)

          Most women enjoy cunnilingus from another woman, too. The whole reason for the masculinity crisis is men are finally realizing they are the unwanted gender.

        • (Score: 3, Informative) by black6host on Sunday May 10 2015, @10:34PM

          by black6host (3827) on Sunday May 10 2015, @10:34PM (#181218) Journal

          I guess you've not listened enough to Lucinda Williams. Try the song "Honey Bee" :)

          • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @10:36PM

            by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @10:36PM (#181219)

            Who the fuck is Lucinda Williams?

            I'm not going to google this, as well.

            • (Score: 3, Informative) by c0lo on Monday May 11 2015, @03:15AM

              by c0lo (156) Subscriber Badge on Monday May 11 2015, @03:15AM (#181324) Journal

              Who the fuck is Lucinda Williams?

              Here [wikipedia.org]

              Lucinda Williams (born January 26, 1953)[1] is an American rock, folk, blues, and country music singer and songwriter.

              ...

              I'm not going to google this, as well.

              I did. Here's the result.

              "Honey Bee"

              Oh, my little honey bee
              I'm so glad you stung me
              You've become my weakness
              Now I've got your sweetness
              All up in my hair
              Honey bee, I swear
              We make quite a pair
              Oh, my little honey bee

              Oh, my little honey bee
              I'm so glad you stung me
              Buzz around your hive now
              You're in overdrive now
              Give me such a thrill
              Honey bee be still
              Oh, my little honey bee

              Oh, my little honey bee
              I'm so glad you stung me
              Now I've got your honey
              All over my tummy
              Honey bee, it's heaven
              Twenty-four seven
              Oh.my little honey bee

              Oh, my little honey bee
              I'm so glad you stung me
              You've become my weakness
              Now I've got your sweetness
              All up in my hair
              Honey bee, I swear
              We make quite a pair

              --
              https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aoFiw2jMy-0 https://soylentnews.org/~MichaelDavidCrawford
          • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @03:23AM

            by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @03:23AM (#181328)
            Her 2014 album, "Down Where the Spirit Meets the Bone", creates a weird image in my mind: I see ethanol-fuelled wanking a bone using a tequila (or some other spirit) bottle; the bone is small enough to fit the bottle neck.
        • (Score: 2) by darkfeline on Sunday May 10 2015, @11:51PM

          by darkfeline (1030) on Sunday May 10 2015, @11:51PM (#181247) Homepage

          But do they like it with green eggs and ham?

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        • (Score: 2) by Magic Oddball on Monday May 11 2015, @02:18AM

          by Magic Oddball (3847) on Monday May 11 2015, @02:18AM (#181304) Journal

          (I was going to adulterate the old USA cotton jingle in the subject line, but couldn't think of a good replacement for "the fabric of our lives" that would fit. Boo.)

          Anyway... Most other women I know don't explicitly like the taste of semen, though there are dietary changes a guy can make to improve it [columbia.edu]. Most also don't explicitly dislike it if the man has been keeping himself properly clean down there — I learned in my first relationship that if a circumcised guy doesn't actively take his hands and wash it with soap, the outside will smell a bit like a urinal and his jizz will end up a little urine-flavored.**

          Though I admit that my automatic thought on the matter is: take him far enough into your mouth, and you won't taste much of anything.

          As far as getting it on our chests or hair, that's not too surprising: it's gloppy stuff that is messy (hard to fully remove) when fresh and unpleasantly stiff when dried. The few guys I've been close enough to ask said they didn't like the sensation, either, but I don't know how common that is.

          **To be fair in turn, about 15 years ago, a regular at a Usenet newsgroup informed us that he didn't like cunnilingus because his wife/1st partner never washed her genitals (IIRC he said she stunk of dead fish down there) and had him convinced that's the norm for girls/women in general. That he put his face anywhere *near* that is so above & beyond the call of (theoretical) duty is kind of mind-boggling.

    • (Score: 5, Funny) by VLM on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:17PM

      by VLM (445) Subscriber Badge on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:17PM (#181196)

      In the past, they would find companionship with other men. For example, they would serve together, 50 or more men, on sailing ships, fishing ships, and cargo ships.

      AC might be on to something, although his description sounds more like my experience in EE classes, CS classes, professional workplace, in fact pretty much everything related to technology.

      • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @04:36PM

        by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @04:36PM (#181526)

        In the past, they would find companionship with other men. For example, they would serve together, 50 or more men, on sailing ships, fishing ships, and cargo ships.

        AC might be on to something, although his description sounds more like my experience in EE classes, CS classes, professional workplace, in fact pretty much everything related to technology.

        So, the IT department is today's version of the sailing ships of yore?

        • (Score: 2) by zugedneb on Tuesday May 12 2015, @04:10AM

          by zugedneb (4556) on Tuesday May 12 2015, @04:10AM (#181786)

          Except for the muscle...
          The new fashion is mantits and hard fingertips.
          Instead of hauling ropes, the sexy pose is to sit like a vulture over a keyboard =)

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  • (Score: 3, Funny) by gringer on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:07PM

    by gringer (962) on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:07PM (#181190)

    Porn and video games don't give preferential treatment to female job applicants.

    Er... you might want to revisit that part of your statement.

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    • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:12PM

      by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:12PM (#181192)

      Porn never questions my ideas! I don't know why I bother expressing myself. I'm gonna go eat a whole pizza and forget you even exist. If I want social interaction, I'll find it on social media where I can choose to interact only with people who agree with me!

  • (Score: 2, Insightful) by Nugoo on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:33PM

    by Nugoo (2584) on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:33PM (#181201)

    More importantly, porn and video games don't require charisma to interact with.

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    • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @10:08PM

      by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @10:08PM (#181210)

      What if they did? What if the VR porn women insulted the player based on there appearance? What if that increased arousal?

      • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @11:37PM

        by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @11:37PM (#181241)

        What if the VR porn women insulted the player based on there appearance?

        Then fuck VR women.

        What if that increased arousal?

        In that case, fuck VR women.

    • (Score: -1, Flamebait) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @12:28AM

      by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @12:28AM (#181264)

      >More importantly, porn and video games don't require charisma to interact with.

      Neither do adorable young girls.

      Remeber: the old religions allow you to have them.
      Women's new religions do not. And yes, American Christianity is a new religion.

      • (Score: 1) by Azuma Hazuki on Tuesday May 12 2015, @11:08PM

        by Azuma Hazuki (5086) on Tuesday May 12 2015, @11:08PM (#182139) Journal

        Were you abused as a little boy, or are you just a plain ol' paedophile? Either way, please kill yourself with something alkaline and caustic.

        --
        I am "that girl" your mother warned you about...
  • (Score: 5, Insightful) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:34PM

    by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @09:34PM (#181202)

    > Porn and video games don't [insert tedious persecution complex whining]

    When all the women do those things to you, at some point a sane person starts to consider that the women are not the problem.

    • (Score: 4, Interesting) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @11:20PM

      by Anonymous Coward on Sunday May 10 2015, @11:20PM (#181234)

      Which part exactly is "prosecution complex whining"?

      That women misuse false rape/harassment allegations to get men into trouble? Men are automatically assumed guilty until proven otherwise by both society and courts. I can give you as many examples as you can handle, the recent Jackie [wikipedia.org] case being one of them.

      That females get preferential treatment in job applications? This is literally the law [wikipedia.org].

      That third-wave feminists want revenge against men? Nope [academic.ru], never [twitter.com] happened [taxfoundation.org]!

      When you have an automatic condescending knee-jerk reaction against men who speak about their problems, then perhaps you should consider if you are the irrational one.

      • (Score: 1, Touché) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @12:16AM

        by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @12:16AM (#181254)

        > Which part exactly is "persecution complex whining"?

        The part where you think you have experienced all of them yourself.

        • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @12:38AM

          by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @12:38AM (#181273)

          Like every person that calls themselves a feminist?

          • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @01:54AM

            by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @01:54AM (#181298)

            Yes, exactly like everybody who calls themselves a feminist using your persecution complex definition of feminist.

      • (Score: 2) by naubol on Monday May 11 2015, @04:31AM

        by naubol (1918) on Monday May 11 2015, @04:31AM (#181353)

        Quoting the man tax to say that all women want revenge is a bit like claiming that all men want to be violent based on the fact that most rapes are committed by men. Also: I'd rather pay the tax than be raped, how about you?

        • (Score: 2) by cubancigar11 on Monday May 11 2015, @06:08AM

          by cubancigar11 (330) on Monday May 11 2015, @06:08AM (#181374) Homepage Journal

          If you literally define rape as one person penetrating another person, men are going to come-up more often as rapists. Replace the word 'rape' with 'coercive sex', and suddenly it is not the men but women, who are the biggest perpetrators. 'Are you man enough?'

          • (Score: 1) by kurenai.tsubasa on Tuesday May 12 2015, @01:44AM

            by kurenai.tsubasa (5227) on Tuesday May 12 2015, @01:44AM (#181747) Journal

            Bingo.

            Also I'd like to invent something called Dworkin's Law if something else hasn't already been named after her. Call all acts of penetration rape, and you've just accused a good segment of the lesbian population of rape.

        • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @06:15AM

          by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @06:15AM (#181375)

          to say that all women

          Sit down sparky, nobody is talking about all women.

          Also: I'd rather pay the tax than be raped, how about you?

          Neither [wikipedia.org].

        • (Score: 1) by kurenai.tsubasa on Tuesday May 12 2015, @04:25AM

          by kurenai.tsubasa (5227) on Tuesday May 12 2015, @04:25AM (#181788) Journal

          I'm sorry, I don't know what a man tax is. Would you please elaborate?

          I was assigned the male gender at birth and unfortunately am having a difficult time amending my birth certificate to female. I have a fully functional female reproductive system. Would the man tax apply to me? What are the legal proposials. I'm sorry in my ignorance of feminism, I honestly have never heard of this before.

          • (Score: 2) by naubol on Tuesday May 12 2015, @04:42AM

            by naubol (1918) on Tuesday May 12 2015, @04:42AM (#181790)

            google, first link?

    • (Score: 5, Insightful) by Thexalon on Sunday May 10 2015, @11:35PM

      by Thexalon (636) on Sunday May 10 2015, @11:35PM (#181239)

      Either that, or GP is looking for love in all the wrong places.

      What's definitely true is that his misogyny isn't helping him with the ladies, though - If you're distrustful and rude and/or crude to women whenever you come into contact with them, they don't like you, and anyone who is surprised by that has a problem.

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      The only thing that stops a bad guy with a compiler is a good guy with a compiler.
      • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @12:13AM

        by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @12:13AM (#181253)

        1. There was no hate shown, so misogyny does not apply.
        2. There was no indication of actions "distrustful and rude and/or crude to women whenever you come into contact with them"
        3. "anyone who is surprised by that has a problem" is clearly a blanket term.

        There is far more bias and emotional angst in your words than the OP.

        • (Score: 2) by naubol on Monday May 11 2015, @04:35AM

          by naubol (1918) on Monday May 11 2015, @04:35AM (#181356)

          Looking at a bunch of replies, it seems pretty clear that a fair number of people got the impression that the OP is a bit angsty. Probably not a winning argument to try to quantify a person's emotional angst relative to another for the purposes of determining who is right. Bias doesn't make you wrong.

          • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @03:50PM

            by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @03:50PM (#181503)

            Reality by consensus and bias being acceptable only in people you already agree with is not a productive nor accurate position to hold.

            • (Score: 1) by kurenai.tsubasa on Tuesday May 12 2015, @02:21AM

              by kurenai.tsubasa (5227) on Tuesday May 12 2015, @02:21AM (#181758) Journal

              Here, let me help if you're still watching this thread for replies.

              I used to be borderline insane, probably neurotic. Like I'd stalk and harass girl after girl, get rejected, and switch to some other girl. Wash rinse repeat. I never got anywhere with any of them, and eventually I realized it was because I wasn't being sincere.

              It was only after I realized that the two girls I was the most “infatuated” with were very masculine (one was/is a part-time trans man—that story's complicated—, and the other eventually transitioned to living as a man full time) that I realized the problem was with me, not them. We've since reconciled. Well, there was one other macho girl now that I think about it, except she became a raging bitch and none of us really want much to do with her anymore.

              The trouble was that I wasn't being honest with myself about my sexuality. YMMV, but hear me out. I'm not saying you're homosexual.

              Actually, I guess this is more about that raging bitch now that I think about it. See, here's the problem. Feminism has made it a-ok for women to be utterly sexist shitlords. I feel there are many women who are put off by the shitlordy-ness of feminism. Some of them prefer traditional gender roles, and others call themselves feminists but do really believe in gender equality. Oddly, a lot of these cisfemale shitlords do not call themselves feminists. It's just that feminism has made it a-ok.

              I'm down the hall from the break room at work, and just today I overheard the most infuriating conversation among a few of the OLs (I'm sure there's another term in English but I apologize I don't know it yet and OL seems to fit the bill). I mean, the break room is like 50 meters down the hall and this conversation was being shouted out loud enough I could make it out, and I don't even have that good of hearing! It was all about “my girls are all so well behaved” and “My boys are such troublemakers!” I mean, these OLs don't have husbands—they collect child support and welfare and just work a minimum wage job so they can list it on the paperwork—but who the fuck raised the boys to be troublemakers. Oh, I know! I've got this one! Maybe it was the lack of a husband, a father, a male role model, that caused them to become troublemakers. Maybe it was our shitlord gynocentric culture that disaffected them to the point of being troublemakers!

              Like I've said before, and I'm not trying to excuse the kind of person I used to be, but maybe this is just karma. I know I used to chase after girl after girl just because I was so confused and under so much pressure to conform, to at least be a lesbian even if I was trans.

              You've got to do some digging. There are girls out there who will respond to you. One guy who's an internet penpal to me basically must have dated over a hundred girls. You know what? Eventually in the end, he got laid. Not only did he get laid, but according to what he's told me the girl is a nympho! Not that I disapprove! To each her own, but now he has sex about 4 or 5 times per week.

              While I think feminism is a disease that hurts both men and women, there may yet be love out there for you. Don't give up hope! Fill the sky with pretty pink letters! Oh wait, that was the old me. You get the drift.

              Search your soul and discover what you really want. It can be had. Even if you're MikeeUSA, it can be had (to quote Spock: I'm not attempting to evaluate the moral implications). Perhaps it can't. But that's the entire point of the article, right? When it cannot be had, we shouldn't hold an entire demographic responsible; we should accept reality as it is. Yet, we should not feel guilty for seeking our own happiness. If it's with a virtual woman, why the fuck should some shitlord come along and wreck our day?

              Gah, this is the get off my lawn part. I remember being intrigued by the possibilities MOOs and MUDs opened up. They're there yet if you look, and much of the original sociology based on those experiences is valid imo. I just don't understand why we have generals and feminists and other shitlords attempting to detract from fantasy experiences, especially in the case of MOOs, MUCKs, and MUDs, that are more fulfilling than anything we could experience in meatspace. I suppose I'd be a Cypherite.

              • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Tuesday May 12 2015, @09:33AM

                by Anonymous Coward on Tuesday May 12 2015, @09:33AM (#181884)

                >Search your soul and discover what you really want.

                I did. Cute, sweet, young girls.

                I used to think I just wanted "nice" "petiet" "women".
                I realized that all the things I actually like, including personality, are attributes of young girls, not women.

              • (Score: 2) by Thexalon on Tuesday May 12 2015, @01:46PM

                by Thexalon (636) on Tuesday May 12 2015, @01:46PM (#181936)

                While I think feminism is a disease that hurts both men and women

                See, that's not what I've experienced at all.

                Those self-described feminists that I've dated or gotten to know were the ones least likely to expect me to pay their bills, do all the yard work or home repairs, have no relationship with any children in the picture, or put them on a pedestal. They didn't try to play mind games with me either, because in their worldview they didn't have to. And they were more fun in bed, because they didn't think their role was to "lie back and think of England".

                Feminism didn't create women living off of handouts and baby-daddies - they've been with us since time immemorial. It did, however, create women who will prefer to make it on their own rather than put up with a lousy man (i.e. unemployed, criminal, addicted to something, abusive, etc). As bad as being the child of a single parent can be, it's usually much less bad than being the child of a bad parent.

                Feminism also means that the fathers I know who enjoy focusing on taking care of their kids can do that while their high-powered career-oriented wives go to work. That would not have been really possible for them to do 50 years ago.

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                • (Score: 1) by kurenai.tsubasa on Tuesday May 12 2015, @10:18PM

                  by kurenai.tsubasa (5227) on Tuesday May 12 2015, @10:18PM (#182110) Journal

                  You are as usual 100% correct. My apologies.

                  There seems to be two kinds of feminism running around. There's the kind with the many benefits you've enumerated. While I haven't run into many of these folks, when I do, it's a breath of fresh air. As you noted, these are the kinds of feminists I have to thank for being able to have a career.

                  Then there's this other kind, at which my rants are directed. That kind, as far as I can tell, is hopelessly homophobic, transphobic, and misandrist—and misogynist! They're sexist cauvinists to the core that make some of the worst “male pigs” I've run into look quaint. Sure, some sarcasm there.

                  For the word feminism to have any meaning, I think one of these two ideologies is not feminism. Perhaps it would make the most sense to call the former feminism and the latter something else.

                  I've heard terms like female supremacist or SJW but those are both problematic. I can call them what they are, sexists and chauvinists, but that tends to make what I'm trying to say unclear. They call themselves feminists, but clearly referring to them as feminists is unclear also! Maybe just gender lunatic will suffice.

    • (Score: 4, Interesting) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @12:10AM

      by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @12:10AM (#181252)

      Is it really a persecution complex whenever a man shows lament or is it true persecution given that when men show lament they are called out for whining, not sane, and undesirable to the opposite sex?

  • (Score: 5, Insightful) by naubol on Monday May 11 2015, @04:24AM

    by naubol (1918) on Monday May 11 2015, @04:24AM (#181352)

    Veered right off into young, angry male land near the end there, didn't ya?

    I'm gay and so the whole women vs men thing sort of passes me by and I watch in bewilderment at all this negativity. When I meet a person who speaks as you do, I tend to observe that they possess poor emotional intelligence and tend to attract only women with similar levels of EQ. It makes me wonder if the anger one feels at being unattractive due to poor character often gets routed into misogyny.

    I used to be only into porn and VG and then I found a great guy, after going through a bunch of reasonable ones. I wonder if the gender divide is a social construct and if it existed for gay men would I have fallen into some bitter trap of resentment. I remember thinking, men are pigs! and then I had to remind myself I was a man. At a certain point I realized I was attracting shitty people and figured out how to improve things. Whether I've 'found the one' or not, looking back it was clear how easy it was to blame others rather than look within.

    Maybe it isn't wise to make so much of the gender wars.

    • (Score: 0, Informative) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @07:02PM

      by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @07:02PM (#181585)

      Veered right off into young, angry male land near the end there, didn't ya?

      Ouch, the shaming tactics right off the bat. Not even trying to conceal the SJW act are we?

      It makes me wonder if the anger one feels at being unattractive due to poor character often gets routed into misogyny.

      Holy crap, how did this bs get modded +5? It's completely justified to feel anger in the face of injustice. Just because you personally don't see it doesn't mean it's not real or prevalent.

      would I have fallen into some bitter trap of resentment.

      Man, that SJW rhetoric. When you can't make an argument, shame your opponent with passive-aggressive attitude!

      At a certain point I realized I was attracting shitty people and figured out how to improve things.

      Well, when a straight man gets into a poor relationship, he can be saddled with 18 years of child support, even if he took every step to prevent it [mommyish.com]. And don't even think about actually fighting for custody, this is the first advise that any divorce lawyer will give you.
      This is the kind of problems men are talking about, not the fact that some relationship ended on a shitty note.

      Whether I've 'found the one' or not, looking back it was clear how easy it was to blame others rather than look within.

      Projecting much? Just because you were whiny doesn't mean that someone else speaking about their problems is.

      Maybe it isn't wise to make so much of the gender wars.

      There are no such thing as gender wars, just a movement to grant females excessive legal and social privileges and the pushback against it. Most women don't willingly support the former, the vast majority are indifferent, and some even oppose it. Calling it "gender wars" is a nice way to polarize the issue in order to drive home the narrative that anyone who fights against injustice done to men must be some kind of misogynist asshole.

    • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @07:32PM

      by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @07:32PM (#181599)

      emotional intelligence

      A mere buzzword. Real intelligent people innovate in such a way as to increase our understanding of the universe; their time is wasted on often illogical cultural norms and trying not to offend the oversensitive. "emotional intelligence" was likely invented as a way to make people feel special for having something pretty much everyone on the planet has to some extent.

      • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @09:15PM

        by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @09:15PM (#181650)

        There is more than just one type [wikipedia.org] of intelligence. Nearly everyone acknowledges this too, commonly differentiating between "book smarts" and "street smarts". "Emotional intelligence" would be "interpersonal intelligence" under the 'multiple intelligences' theory.

        • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Tuesday May 12 2015, @02:08AM

          by Anonymous Coward on Tuesday May 12 2015, @02:08AM (#181753)

          This is highly questionable theory to put it lightly. It's nowhere near accepted in mainstream science, hardly something that can be cited as a fact. Never the less, SJWs love it because it lets them claim that more people are special snowflake, which is reflected on the SJW dominated Wikipedia.

          Here is a more critical article [wikia.com] which describes some of the problems with this theory.

      • (Score: 2) by naubol on Tuesday May 12 2015, @02:09AM

        by naubol (1918) on Tuesday May 12 2015, @02:09AM (#181754)

        Reproduction isn't important?

        • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Tuesday May 19 2015, @02:18AM

          by Anonymous Coward on Tuesday May 19 2015, @02:18AM (#184912)

          Not when there is around 7 billion people on the planet. And if we were in danger of extinction, people would drop their petty, shallow standards and start mating. In an ideal world, people would strive to be logical, but that is not the case, and this "emotional intelligence" business only encourages the opposite.

  • (Score: 1, Insightful) by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @02:16PM

    by Anonymous Coward on Monday May 11 2015, @02:16PM (#181471)

    You forgot to add, porn and video games are cheaper.