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Chechnya's leader Ramzan Kadyrov has urged men to stop their wives from using WhatsApp after anger over a police chief's forced marriage to a 17-year-old spread on the messaging service:
"Lock them in, do not let them go out, then they will not post anything," Ramzan Kadyrov was quoted as saying. Mr Kadyrov had earlier backed a police chief's marriage to a 17-year-old, even though he was already married, in apparent violation of Russian laws. His chief of staff has since proposed legalising polygamy in Chechnya.
Mr Kadyrov, an authoritarian leader and close ally of Russian President Vladimir Putin, has in recent years outlawed the abduction of brides and underage marriage. He is also thought to be in favour of polygamy. His top aide Magomed Daudov said: "It all has to be in keeping with Sharia: But if a man can support more than one wife, then why not?"
Before Saturday's ceremony, local media reported that police chief Nazhud Guchigov, 47, had prevented Kheda Goylabiyeva from leaving her home and threatened her family with reprisals if they did not hand her over.Mr Kadyrov denounced discussion of the marriage on WhatsApp in comments broadcast on local state-run TV. "Stop. Behave like Chechens," he was reported as saying. "The family honour is the most important thing. Do not write such things. Men, do take your women out of WhatsApp." Last week he took to his Instagram account to criticise Russian media coverage of the marriage as "this fuss ordered by some liberals". "The girl's parents gave their blessing to this marriage," he claimed, arguing that reports to the contrary were filled with lies.
(Score: 2) by lentilla on Friday May 22 2015, @06:29PM
I want a child and my wife doesn't.
Yes... but being married, you're hardly a representative sample of all men? (In the nicest possible way :-) There seems to be an element of "well, I'm married, so now I think some children would be nice". There are a number of factors. Married people often associate with other married people, who quite often end up with children - so you are around babies and children and even that's enough to make a man a little clucky. There's also parents being excited about the possibility of becoming grandparents and even if they don't ask directly, you know they think about it occasionally. Those married friends of yours, now with children, now also have less time to spend with you, and what better way to spend all that extra time that to have a little one of your own? Lastly, there is a certain element of "in for a dime, in for a dollar", so if you wear a wedding band, you might as well maximise your potential and change some nappies.
The grandparent poster; tftp; despite being currently moderated as "troll"; does make a number of valid points. His thesis
I, personally, never met a man who'd be dreaming of marriage.
does have a ring of truth about it. Myself... I have met quite a number of men who have wanted to be married. I'm not so sure he's correct about the marriage part but he'd be spot-on if he was talking about babies. (At least where I live, having children "out of wedlock" is only likely to raise an occasional eyebrow - so "marriage" and "children" don't have to be conflated.)
So, to put my stamp on it: most men I've met aren't particularly fussed about children but most women are. If "the wife" wants children, the husband usually obliges and most seem quite happy. I do know that older, childless men often have considerable regret that they didn't have any children but likewise, older childless women do to. It would be a very rare man that dreamt about babies but such an experience is common amongst women. That's simply how we're wired and nothing to be ashamed of.