“Dan” seems at first to perfectly embody that popular object of scorn these days in San Francisco: the privileged tech worker. He’s a developer-turned-manager at a thriving startup, the type of guy you would expect to see dodging protesters at a Google bus stop or evicting low-income tenants in order to build his dream condo. But beyond that veneer of untouchable privilege, there is a soft underbelly. He’s a 40-year-old virgin, and his troubles with women are bad enough that he’s sought out a sex therapist for help.
This is in part a result of techies’ higher-than-average salaries, which allow them to pay for therapy, particularly when it comes to non-traditional counseling that isn’t covered by insurance. There’s something else at play here, though: In general, tech workers are more vulnerable to issues around love and intimacy, according to several local sex therapists I’ve interviewed. The reasons for this are wide-ranging, but in Dan’s particular case, it resulted from being tagged as a prodigy at a young age. He excelled in science and was encouraged to pursue it to the exclusion of all else.
The men, like Dan, who are coming to see her have been hindered by the very thing that allows them to excel in their field. “There is a very strong reinforcement [in tech] on using your brain,” says McGrath. “You brain is what’s of value.” But when it comes to sex, she says, “our brains are bullshit.”
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday June 01 2015, @05:21AM
No woman will allow a man close enough to lick her without first inspecting his wallet and bank statements for fake money. Desperate creeps stuff blank paper in their wallets and try to pass off bitcoin as real money in a sad attempt to get laid. It ain't happening, honey! You gotta earn all this pussy.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday June 01 2015, @05:33AM
This is why women are amateur suckers: there's no warranty they will benefit from the money in the wallet/bank account.
Professionals suckers aren't women, they are... shall we say?... businessmen: money down to even see pussy.
Err.... what?
(Score: 2, Touché) by Anonymous Coward on Monday June 01 2015, @05:38AM
It's called marriage. A woman gets exclusive access to her husband's money, and a man gets exclusive access to his wife's pussy. That's what marriage means, sucker.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday June 01 2015, @05:56AM
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday June 01 2015, @12:51PM
Well, "amateur" is derived from Latin "amator" which means "lover". Just saying.