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I came across this piece on Scott Adam's blog and found it quite interesting. Thought others here might find it interesting too:
http://blog.dilbert.com/post/133406477506/global-gender-war#_=_
So if you are wondering how men become cold-blooded killers, it isn't religion that is doing it. If you put me in that situation, I can say with confidence I would sign up for suicide bomb duty. And I'm not even a believer. Men like hugging better than they like killing. But if you take away my access to hugging, I will probably start killing, just to feel something. I'm designed that way. I'm a normal boy. And I make no apology for it.
Now consider the controversy over the Syrian immigrants. The photos show mostly men of fighting age. No one cares about adult men, so a 1% chance of a hidden terrorist in the group – who might someday kill women and children – is unacceptable. I have twice blogged on the idea of siphoning out the women and small kids from the Caliphate and leaving millions of innocent adult men to suffer and die. I don't recall anyone complaining about leaving millions of innocent adult males to horrible suffering. In this country, any solution to a problem that involves killing millions of adult men is automatically on the table.
If you kill infidels, you will be rewarded with virgins in heaven. But if you kill your own leaders today – the ones holding the leash on your balls – you can have access to women tomorrow. And tomorrow is sooner.
(Score: 1) by Francis on Saturday November 21 2015, @01:02PM
This is some of the most overtly misandrist dribble I've seen in a while. Of course women should be giving up some of that power, they shouldn't have had it in the first place!
What you're describing is domestic violence. Wholehearted consent isn't the standard here, the question is whether or not both parties are willing to consent. Unless both parties require about the same amount of sex, the low demand partner is going to have to agree to some sex that they aren't enthusiastic about for the health of the marriage.
It's way too common for women to be mad about something and use that as an excuse to punish the husband by withholding sex. That's abuse and there's really no other way of looking at it. It's not something that the husband can really defend against other than by seeking a divorce.
(Score: 2) by jdavidb on Saturday November 21 2015, @01:24PM
Unless both parties require about the same amount of sex, the low demand partner is going to have to agree to some sex that they aren't enthusiastic about for the health of the marriage.
Do you have any actual credentials or studies? I'm going by the experience and research of this marriage counselor [marriagebuilders.com] who has helped save marriages for decades. In his words, regarding statements like this, "It's dangerous stuff you are recommending. It ruins marriages."
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(Score: 1) by Francis on Sunday November 22 2015, @12:36PM
Are you seriously arguing that sex isn't for bonding as well as making babies? There's at on of research evidence out there that oxytocin levels spike during and immediately after sex and oxytocin itself is primarily about bonding people together. Not to mention the resentment from somebody holding out.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-and-gratitude/201310/oxytocin-the-love-and-trust-hormone-can-be-deceptive [psychologytoday.com]
There are serious problems associated with long periods of time without sex.
http://www.articlesbase.com/womens-health-articles/effects-of-celibacy-454770.html [articlesbase.com]
Also, that link has nothing to do with the passage you quoted.
(Score: 2) by jdavidb on Sunday November 22 2015, @12:49PM
Are you seriously arguing that sex isn't for bonding as well as making babies?
No.
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(Score: 2) by jdavidb on Sunday November 22 2015, @12:53PM
There are serious problems associated with long periods of time without sex.
There are also serious problems for a woman if she has sex when she is not enthusiastic about it, so since a man needs sex it would behoove him to learn how to create a relationship and environment that leads to her being enthusiastic about sex.
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(Score: 3, Insightful) by Anal Pumpernickel on Saturday November 21 2015, @02:33PM
Unless both parties require about the same amount of sex, the low demand partner is going to have to agree to some sex that they aren't enthusiastic about for the health of the marriage.
I wonder why these discussions are always about marriage. The exact same thing could be said if you just replaced that word with "relationship". Marriage is just a silly social ritual that some people seem to believe is magic; I see little reason to assume that it's an inevitability in a relationship or that it will magically improve everything.
That's abuse and there's really no other way of looking at it.
Controlling your own body is abusing someone else? You're not entitled to sex in the first place. If someone doesn't consent to having sex with you, you have not lost anything, so there's no conceivable way withholding sex could qualify as "abuse".
(Score: 2) by jdavidb on Sunday November 22 2015, @01:45AM
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(Score: 2) by jdavidb on Sunday November 22 2015, @01:47AM
Controlling your own body is abusing someone else? You're not entitled to sex in the first place.
Yes, exactly! In Dr. Harley's nomenclature, to engage in abuse, you have to actually do something. Not doing something is not abuse, and in fact he encourages you to not do something in your relationship if you are not enthusiastic about it.
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(Score: 1) by Francis on Sunday November 22 2015, @12:23PM
Withholding is an action you engage in in this context. Not having sex because you're physically unable is one thing, not having sex to control the other person is quite a different thing.
And yes, withholding sex definitely is a form of abuse. You see it on TV all the time being used as abuse and nobody seems to care. But, anytime you're doing something to take power from somebody else and use it to control them, that is abuse. If Dr. Harley is arguing otherwise, then he's a fucking moron that ought to have his license revoked because that's not competent psychological treatment.
(Score: 2) by jdavidb on Sunday November 22 2015, @12:54PM
If Dr. Harley is arguing otherwise, then he's a fucking moron that ought to have his license revoked because that's not competent psychological treatment.
The thing is, his approach leads to a happy relationship with lots of sex, whereas the approach of calling your wife or girlfriend an abuser or otherwise lecturing her for not having sex with you leads to loneliness and sexual frustration.
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