People we know are surprised, but envy what we have.
What if you don't get divorced, even though you both would have. You each have your own life. Continue to raise kid together. in one house Have evening meals together until and beyond when the kid moves out in their early 20's. Don't have fights. Everyone knows what house responsibilities they have. Have a big enough house that you each have your own space (even before kid moved out). Continue to remain married so wife can stay on your health insurance, and continue to not have to work. Take vacations together as we always have done. (Yea, Disney World) Finances are shared as they always have been. Everything jointly owned. We go to family events together. We've both realized and discussed that we trust each other with a far deeper trust than anyone else on this earth. And I mean trust like medical or even end of life decisions.
Clicking divorced, separated, etc implies problems which we do not have. Clicking married, while technically correct, is not accurate. While traveling that technicality is often convenient. Sometimes confusing ("you want separate double beds?")
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(Score: 2) by Snow on Monday July 29 2019, @07:25PM
You have one of the best marriage outcomes possible. Sex is good, but it goes down in priorities as the age builds up. Having someone to trust and to live with is, well, the other way round and for most people it is way harder to achieve.
I know a couple living this way. They even adopted a child (after their own one became a father himself) and this child is one of the happiest I have ever seen. Mom and dad sleeping on different floors? That's the way it has to be, probably.
I've been in a couple relationships in which the woman and I lived together, and I'm pretty sure they both would have lasted until now had we not lived together. Unless you absolutely have to do so for survival reasons, living together is not always a good idea. If I ever got married I'd be totally fine with living separately even as a married couple.
Both sets of my grandparents had separate bedrooms before I was born until they died. The men were free to fart as they pleased, and the women could decorate and scent the air as they pleased. And they damn sure were done making babies.
(Score: 3, Insightful) by DannyB on Monday July 29 2019, @05:13PM (8 children)
People we know are surprised, but envy what we have.
What if you don't get divorced, even though you both would have. You each have your own life. Continue to raise kid together. in one house Have evening meals together until and beyond when the kid moves out in their early 20's. Don't have fights. Everyone knows what house responsibilities they have. Have a big enough house that you each have your own space (even before kid moved out). Continue to remain married so wife can stay on your health insurance, and continue to not have to work. Take vacations together as we always have done. (Yea, Disney World) Finances are shared as they always have been. Everything jointly owned. We go to family events together. We've both realized and discussed that we trust each other with a far deeper trust than anyone else on this earth. And I mean trust like medical or even end of life decisions.
Clicking divorced, separated, etc implies problems which we do not have. Clicking married, while technically correct, is not accurate. While traveling that technicality is often convenient. Sometimes confusing ("you want separate double beds?")
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(Score: 2) by Snow on Monday July 29 2019, @07:25PM
Life partner :)
(Score: 5, Insightful) by cmdrklarg on Friday August 02 2019, @08:07PM
You're married. Sounds like the only thing that's different is that you're not having a sexual relationship with your wife.
But... that's not exactly different than a lot of other marriages.
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(Score: 3, Insightful) by fraxinus-tree on Saturday August 03 2019, @08:03AM (2 children)
You have one of the best marriage outcomes possible. Sex is good, but it goes down in priorities as the age builds up. Having someone to trust and to live with is, well, the other way round and for most people it is way harder to achieve.
I know a couple living this way. They even adopted a child (after their own one became a father himself) and this child is one of the happiest I have ever seen. Mom and dad sleeping on different floors? That's the way it has to be, probably.
(Score: 2, Interesting) by Ethanol-fueled on Sunday August 04 2019, @12:29AM (1 child)
I've been in a couple relationships in which the woman and I lived together, and I'm pretty sure they both would have lasted until now had we not lived together. Unless you absolutely have to do so for survival reasons, living together is not always a good idea. If I ever got married I'd be totally fine with living separately even as a married couple.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday August 05 2019, @01:39PM
Are you Bi then?
I thought you were gay..
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04 2019, @08:50AM
Sounds like what I have. Without the kid.
I miss the sex. Mostly.
(Score: 2) by krishnoid on Sunday August 04 2019, @11:41PM
Simple enough -- each of you point to the other and say "s/he snores".
(Score: 2) by JoeMerchant on Tuesday August 06 2019, @01:11AM
Both sets of my grandparents had separate bedrooms before I was born until they died. The men were free to fart as they pleased, and the women could decorate and scent the air as they pleased. And they damn sure were done making babies.
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