If you don't have arguments/fights with your spouse, you're doing something wrong. You won't ever, always agree, on everything. Just make sure your arguments/fights are handled in a rational, loving way.
-- Joshua 1:9 "Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee"
Yup, that's what did my marriage in: poor communication. That and our different ways of handling our anger. I would become visibly angry, but generally keep it to myself and in a day or so, it would subside as I sorted it out in my head. Her? I could always tell; she would stop talking to me. But I (foolishly) thought she would process it the same as I did. NOPE. She never let go of it. We almost NEVER fought.
Then out of the blue comes the "we need to go to marriage counseling". Huh? Okay... find out it is mostly her baggage. But in the end, it was nothing I could have done. In retrospect, I should have dragged out of her what had put a burr under her saddle and dealt with it. What was it? I had said NO to a second child. I get that it's an important thing for a mother, but dammit a child needs to have both parents on board with the idea, right?
Oh, we get along fine now, we mostly keep to ourselves except for things involving our son. I do help her out, and vice versa. Heck, I'd take her back if she'd ever ask me (that will almost certainly never happen however).
-- The world is full of kings and queens who blind your eyes and steal your dreams.
Children, thus numbers thereof, are a huge thing in long-term relationships. Super-happy my partner is exactly as 100% childfree as I am. Genetically, it's a terrible trait to have, but we can live with that - being a slave to genetics isn't really being yourself anyway.
-- Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people; the smallest discuss themselves
(Score: 2, Interesting) by Sulla on Wednesday July 31 2019, @07:12AM (7 children)
For the people on here who occasionally have arguments/fights with your spouse, did your parents or their parents have arguments/fights?
Ceterum censeo Sinae esse delendam
(Score: 4, Insightful) by Freeman on Wednesday July 31 2019, @06:46PM (4 children)
If you don't have arguments/fights with your spouse, you're doing something wrong. You won't ever, always agree, on everything. Just make sure your arguments/fights are handled in a rational, loving way.
Joshua 1:9 "Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee"
(Score: 2, Funny) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 01 2019, @02:00PM
The wife is always right... even if she isn't.
(Score: 3, Informative) by cmdrklarg on Friday August 02 2019, @08:27PM (1 child)
Yup, that's what did my marriage in: poor communication. That and our different ways of handling our anger. I would become visibly angry, but generally keep it to myself and in a day or so, it would subside as I sorted it out in my head. Her? I could always tell; she would stop talking to me. But I (foolishly) thought she would process it the same as I did. NOPE. She never let go of it. We almost NEVER fought.
Then out of the blue comes the "we need to go to marriage counseling". Huh? Okay... find out it is mostly her baggage. But in the end, it was nothing I could have done. In retrospect, I should have dragged out of her what had put a burr under her saddle and dealt with it. What was it? I had said NO to a second child. I get that it's an important thing for a mother, but dammit a child needs to have both parents on board with the idea, right?
Oh, we get along fine now, we mostly keep to ourselves except for things involving our son. I do help her out, and vice versa. Heck, I'd take her back if she'd ever ask me (that will almost certainly never happen however).
The world is full of kings and queens who blind your eyes and steal your dreams.
(Score: 3, Insightful) by FatPhil on Sunday August 04 2019, @12:09PM
Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people; the smallest discuss themselves
(Score: -1, Spam) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08 2019, @01:58PM
That can't last. Nobody can follow the loving way with wrinkled dry and flaccid love organs.
(Score: 2) by Gaaark on Friday August 02 2019, @03:01PM
My wife and I fight when one or both of us is tired. When on vacation, we never fight.
Her family fought out loud, whereas my parents fought quietly: my mom said he once didn't talk to her for 3 days.
So marrying my wife was a shock: she wanted to hash it out loudly, while I wanted to just shut down.
--- Please remind me if I haven't been civil to you: I'm channeling MDC. ---Gaaark 2.0 ---
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04 2019, @12:31PM
Not really. One or two major blowups but that's about it. Mostly they just hit the kids.