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Michelle Cottle reports in The Atlantic that in an earlier era, a suspicious husband might have rifled through his wife's pockets or hired a private investigator but today spouses have easy access to an array of sophisticated spy software that records every keystroke; compiles detailed logs of calls, texts, and video chats; that tracks a phone’s location in real time; recovers deleted messages from all manner of devices (without having to touch said devices); and that turns phones into wiretapping equipment. One might assume that the proliferation of such spyware would have a chilling effect on extramarital activities. But according to Cottle, aspiring cheaters, need not despair: software developers are also rolling out ever stealthier technology to help people conceal their affairs. Right or wrong, cheating apps tap into a potentially lucrative market and researchers regard the Internet as fertile ground for female infidelity in particular. “Men tend to cheat for physical reasons and women for emotional reasons,” says Katherine Hertlein. “The Internet facilitates a lot of emotional disclosure and connections with someone else.”
But virtual surveillance has its risks. Stumbling across an incriminating email your partner left open is one thing; premeditated spying can land you in court. A Minnesota man named Danny Lee Hormann, suspecting his wife of infidelity, installed a GPS tracker on her car and allegedly downloaded spyware onto her phone and the family computer. In March 2010, Hormann's wife had a mechanic search her car and found the tracker. She called the police, and Hormann spent a month in jail on stalking charges. “I always tell people two things: (1) do it legally, and (2) do it right,” says John Paul Lucich, a computer-forensics expert and the author of Cyber Lies, a do-it-yourself guide for spouses looking to become virtual sleuths. Lucich has worked his share of ugly divorces, and he stresses that even the most damning digital evidence of infidelity will prove worthless in court—and potentially land you in trouble—if improperly gathered. His blanket advice: Get a really good lawyer.
(Score: 2, Insightful) by Gravis on Thursday October 16 2014, @10:22PM
if you aren't mature enough to trust your spouse then you aren't mature enough to be married. if you aren't mature enough to be a faithful spouse then you aren't mature enough to be married.
immature people need to stop getting married. what is pathetic that some people never mature!
(Score: 3, Insightful) by Dunbal on Thursday October 16 2014, @10:44PM
Problem is you are expecting immature people to be mature enough to recognize their immaturity and act in a mature fashion.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday October 16 2014, @11:09PM
Immature people don't know they're immature because they use their immature brain to check?
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Friday October 17 2014, @02:34AM
Turn it around. What if mature people were immature enough to recognize their maturity and act in an immature fashion?
(Score: 2) by hemocyanin on Thursday October 16 2014, @11:46PM
1) Society needs to rethink what infidelity means.
2) There is no need to spy on a spouse because if you feel the need, your relationship is broken (either because you are a jealous primitive possessive asshole, or because you value sexual fidelity over everything else and are right about being given horns) in which case you should get a divorce ASAP.
(Score: 0, Insightful) by Anonymous Coward on Friday October 17 2014, @12:22AM
Heh, just because YOU aren't mature enough to handle pair-bonding doesn't mean polygamous behavior is healthy.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Friday October 17 2014, @02:59AM
Because divorce and infidelity are clearly superior to consenting adults engaging in open relationships or economic unions. Polygamists/swingers sound more mature to me.
(Score: 2) by kaszz on Friday October 17 2014, @12:56AM
1) People may want to preserve their health from STD arriving via their partners infidelity. Otoh, a blood transfusion may do the same damage.
2) A lot of people share kids, mortgage, social circles but in many cases obviously not emotional bond or sex. Perhaps people shouldn't bond in ways that are unsustainable.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Friday October 17 2014, @08:44AM
The relationship may be broke, but proving infidelity might make the divorce easier or more favorable to you. But in that case you will want to make sure it is done properly so any evidence you obtain is usable, as such hiring a PI to do it is probably better.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Friday October 17 2014, @02:53AM
There are many divorces in the U.S. There are also many cases of complete deception by one (or both) partners, or even mental illness.
Hence, a thriving industry.
(Score: 1, Insightful) by Anonymous Coward on Friday October 17 2014, @09:00AM
Well said.
Get a really good lawyer.
No, get a good spouse.
(Score: 2) by hoochiecoochieman on Friday October 17 2014, @11:26AM
Why would you want to impose your particular kind of relashionship to everyone else? My marriage is pretty traditional, but I know people who are happy living in different ways.
Why would I judge them? Why would they judge me?
(Score: 2) by monster on Friday October 17 2014, @02:41PM
Isn't even more inmature that the system judges the behaviour of both members of the couple in order to decide how their property must be distributed?
So his wife may have had a relationship with another person. So what? Does she deserve less of the common goods than if she didn't? What if she didn't, but is a mean, abusive person. Does it count? Does it if he prefers to watch football with his friends instead of going to theatre with her?
My point is that it's not the judge's business to decide if the lives of the couple are moral or not and award them accordingly. If there were no illegal actions, just do a fair distribution and let them part ways.