People are touched by small kindnesses and led to greater generosity, new research shows:
Anyone who has given a friend a ride, baked cookies for a sick family member, or even bought a stranger a cup of coffee knows acts of kindness can enhance happiness.
But such random acts of kindness are still somewhat rare. Texas McCombs Assistant Professor of Marketing Amit Kumar set out to discover why people don't engage in prosocial acts — such as helping, sharing, or donating — more often.
In a new study, Kumar, along with Nicholas Epley of the University of Chicago, found that people often underestimate how good these actions make recipients feel. Givers tend to focus on the object they're providing or action they're performing, while receivers instead concentrate on the feelings of warmth the act of kindness has conjured up. Givers' "miscalibrated expectations" — that receivers are solely concerned with the gift itself — can function as a barrier to performing more prosocial behaviors.
[...] The researchers' findings offer practical implications and advice for people going about their everyday lives. When people realize their small actions have a large impact, they can choose to be nicer and carry out more acts of random kindness, enhancing both their well-being and that of others.
"Positive interpersonal contact is a powerful source of happiness," Kumar says. "It will make you feel better and someone else feel better, even better than you think they'll feel. A little good doesn't just go a long way — it goes an unexpectedly long way."
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Journal Reference:
Kumar, A., & Epley, N. (2022). A little good goes an unexpectedly long way: Underestimating the positive impact of kindness on recipients. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General. 10.1037/xge0001271
(Score: 2) by krishnoid on Monday August 22 2022, @05:24PM (1 child)
I suspect these are the kind of short, catch-up interactions that social media was supposed to make conveniently asynchronous (and to some extent it does). But every generation of STEM-types have to relearn that online interactions [penny-arcade.com] don't perfectly mirror in-person ones.
When it comes to in-person interactions, though, I bet we all have those one or two people who won't stop talking, and you gotta set a hard limit on the conversation so you can budget time responsibly. I don't think there's any other way to put it.
(Score: 4, Interesting) by Anonymous Coward on Monday August 22 2022, @06:50PM
> short, catch-up interactions
When cleaning out the semi-hoarder house of a family friend, we came across a small collection of 100+ year old postcards. Penny stamps (USA $0.01). Most of them were the hand written equivalent of "What's up dude?", very short messages/greetings. A little more research turned up that postal delivery in the city was 2 or 3 times PER DAY back then. The impression I got was that these simple post cards were the equivalent of the text message of the day.