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posted by janrinok on Sunday February 22 2015, @06:31AM   Printer-friendly
from the I-was-using-the-wrong-colour-all-along dept.

Rachel Nuwer writes in the New York Times that Dr. Sameer Chaudhry’s online dating persona was garnering no response from the women he reached out to so he synthesized 86 literature studies on the subject of online dating in the fields of psychology, sociology, and computer, behavioral, and neurocognitive sciences.in hopes of improving his odds. As it turns out, success begins with picking a user name. While men are drawn to names linked to physical traits (e.g., Cutie), the researchers found, women prefer ones that indicate intelligence (e.g., Cultured). Both sexes respond well to playful names (e.g. Fun2bwith) and shy away from ones with negative connotations (e.g., Bugg).

User names that begin with letters from the first half of the alphabet do better than those from the latter half. “As human beings, we have a tendency to give things at the top of a pile more value,” says Khan. As for your profile photo, pick a photo with a genuine smile, one that crinkles the eyes, and with a slight head tilt (it’s linked to attractiveness). And if you’re looking for a male partner, go for that photo of you in siren red—a color that enhances men's attraction to women.

"For those attracted to browse into the profile, a description of personal traits increased likeability when it: showed who the dater was and what they were looking for in a 70:30 ratio; stayed close to reality; and employed simple language with humor added. Invitations were most successful in obtaining a response from the potential date when they: were short personalized messages addressing a trait in their profile; rhymed with their screen name or headline message; and extended genuine compliments." And finally, don't wait too long before arranging a face to face meeting.

 
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  • (Score: 4, Informative) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday February 22 2015, @03:05PM

    by Anonymous Coward on Sunday February 22 2015, @03:05PM (#148100)

    > I now know my observations are not by no means unique to me.

    That doesn't make them any more correct.
    For all you know you are experiencing the MRA equivalent of a pro-ana website. [wikipedia.org]

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  • (Score: 1) by anubi on Tuesday February 24 2015, @02:50AM

    by anubi (2828) on Tuesday February 24 2015, @02:50AM (#148891) Journal

    People get all sorts of different experience. I guess I am still reeling over "falling in love" back in university days, and it didn't work out. I never did figure out what I did wrong, but my ass got handed back to me, sans wallet. Try as I might, I saw how futile my efforts were.

    I was there, trying to learn a skill, so I could support a family. Sure, I graduated with honors and all that kinda stuff, but my work seemed the only thing I could do right. It slowly dawned on me some guys have "what it takes" to get a woman interested in them. I watched gang-bangers, bad-boys, slackers of all sorts, interest the women. I was trying all I could to better myself, but found myself now going at it alone. Even then, trying to do things properly earned me the title of "perfectionist", when what I wanted was to be known for "attention to detail".

    I feel I just plain fucked up.

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    "Prove all things; hold fast that which is good." [KJV: I Thessalonians 5:21]