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What is your marital status?

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Single (Never Married)
  36% 113 votes
Separated
0% 2 votes
Legally Separated
0% 0 votes
Divorced
  7% 23 votes
Married
  13% 42 votes
Married with Children
  29% 91 votes
Other (Specify)
  12% 38 votes
309 total votes.
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  • Don't complain about lack of options. You've got to pick a few when you do multiple choice. Those are the breaks.
  • Feel free to suggest poll ideas if you're feeling creative. I'd strongly suggest reading the past polls first.
  • This whole thing is wildly inaccurate. Rounding errors, ballot stuffers, dynamic IPs, firewalls. If you're using these numbers to do anything important, you're insane.
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  • (Score: 1, Touché) by Anonymous Coward on Monday July 29, @02:17PM (4 children)

    by Anonymous Coward on Monday July 29, @02:17PM (#872635)

    Also, are we trying to de-anonymize ACs ?

    • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @10:28AM (3 children)

      by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @10:28AM (#875444)

      And an adult partner I hope...
      - Chris Hansen

      • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday August 05, @01:30PM (2 children)

        by Anonymous Coward on Monday August 05, @01:30PM (#875929)

        Define "adult" please.
        Some species don't live that long.

        • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday August 05, @02:19PM (1 child)

          by Anonymous Coward on Monday August 05, @02:19PM (#875961)

          Adulting is hard.

  • (Score: 4, Funny) by Snow on Monday July 29, @03:49PM (3 children)

    by Snow (1601) Subscriber Badge on Monday July 29, @03:49PM (#872687) Journal

    You all know too much about my marital status...

    • (Score: 3, Touché) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 01, @10:04AM (1 child)

      by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 01, @10:04AM (#873937)

      So where is the "○ Snow" option?

      • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08, @05:26PM

        by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08, @05:26PM (#877565)

        You can get a snowball if you want, no need to be all PDA about it!

    • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Wednesday August 21, @03:08AM

      by Anonymous Coward on Wednesday August 21, @03:08AM (#882925)

      ☒ Stupid

  • (Score: 3, Insightful) by DannyB on Monday July 29, @05:13PM (8 children)

    by DannyB (5839) Subscriber Badge on Monday July 29, @05:13PM (#872731) Journal

    People we know are surprised, but envy what we have.

    What if you don't get divorced, even though you both would have. You each have your own life. Continue to raise kid together. in one house Have evening meals together until and beyond when the kid moves out in their early 20's. Don't have fights. Everyone knows what house responsibilities they have. Have a big enough house that you each have your own space (even before kid moved out). Continue to remain married so wife can stay on your health insurance, and continue to not have to work. Take vacations together as we always have done. (Yea, Disney World) Finances are shared as they always have been. Everything jointly owned. We go to family events together. We've both realized and discussed that we trust each other with a far deeper trust than anyone else on this earth. And I mean trust like medical or even end of life decisions.

    Clicking divorced, separated, etc implies problems which we do not have. Clicking married, while technically correct, is not accurate. While traveling that technicality is often convenient. Sometimes confusing ("you want separate double beds?")

    --
    Youngsters pay attention: As you get older, more and more things become a joke.
    • (Score: 2) by Snow on Monday July 29, @07:25PM

      by Snow (1601) Subscriber Badge on Monday July 29, @07:25PM (#872776) Journal

      Life partner :)

    • (Score: 5, Insightful) by cmdrklarg on Friday August 02, @08:07PM

      by cmdrklarg (5048) on Friday August 02, @08:07PM (#874813)

      You're married. Sounds like the only thing that's different is that you're not having a sexual relationship with your wife.

      But... that's not exactly different than a lot of other marriages.

      --
      THE SOFTWARE, IT NO WORKY!
    • (Score: 3, Insightful) by fraxinus-tree on Saturday August 03, @08:03AM (2 children)

      by fraxinus-tree (5590) on Saturday August 03, @08:03AM (#875035)

      You have one of the best marriage outcomes possible. Sex is good, but it goes down in priorities as the age builds up. Having someone to trust and to live with is, well, the other way round and for most people it is way harder to achieve.

      I know a couple living this way. They even adopted a child (after their own one became a father himself) and this child is one of the happiest I have ever seen. Mom and dad sleeping on different floors? That's the way it has to be, probably.

      • (Score: 2, Interesting) by Ethanol-fueled on Sunday August 04, @12:29AM (1 child)

        by Ethanol-fueled (2792) Subscriber Badge on Sunday August 04, @12:29AM (#875304) Homepage

        I've been in a couple relationships in which the woman and I lived together, and I'm pretty sure they both would have lasted until now had we not lived together. Unless you absolutely have to do so for survival reasons, living together is not always a good idea. If I ever got married I'd be totally fine with living separately even as a married couple.

        • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Monday August 05, @01:39PM

          by Anonymous Coward on Monday August 05, @01:39PM (#875933)

          Are you Bi then?
          I thought you were gay..

    • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @08:50AM

      by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @08:50AM (#875435)

      Sounds like what I have. Without the kid.

      I miss the sex. Mostly.

    • (Score: 2) by krishnoid on Sunday August 04, @11:41PM

      by krishnoid (1156) on Sunday August 04, @11:41PM (#875720)

      Sometimes confusing ("you want separate double beds?")

      Simple enough -- each of you point to the other and say "s/he snores".

    • (Score: 2) by JoeMerchant on Tuesday August 06, @01:11AM

      by JoeMerchant (3937) on Tuesday August 06, @01:11AM (#876260)

      Both sets of my grandparents had separate bedrooms before I was born until they died. The men were free to fart as they pleased, and the women could decorate and scent the air as they pleased. And they damn sure were done making babies.

  • (Score: 3, Informative) by hendrikboom on Monday July 29, @08:10PM (22 children)

    by hendrikboom (1125) Subscriber Badge on Monday July 29, @08:10PM (#872795) Homepage

    I'm a widower. My wife died on May 29 this year.

    • (Score: 2) by hendrikboom on Monday July 29, @08:11PM (2 children)

      by hendrikboom (1125) Subscriber Badge on Monday July 29, @08:11PM (#872796) Homepage

      And I have three adult children.

      • (Score: 2) by PartTimeZombie on Wednesday July 31, @10:57PM (1 child)

        by PartTimeZombie (4827) on Wednesday July 31, @10:57PM (#873768)

        I wondered about that option too, as my "children" are both bigger than me.

        Limited number of options available though, I'm not complaining, honest.;-)

        • (Score: 2) by Runaway1956 on Friday August 02, @03:43PM

          by Runaway1956 (2926) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @03:43PM (#874670) Homepage Journal

          Like Gaark, "I never know what to say". I think that's because there are no words to express what needs to be said.

          Respects, man.

          --
          My CoC: do whatever I want to do, and to hell with anyone who is "offended".
    • (Score: 2) by Gaaark on Tuesday July 30, @01:16PM (3 children)

      by Gaaark (41) Subscriber Badge on Tuesday July 30, @01:16PM (#873071) Journal

      Sorry for your loss.
      Move on.

      https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=TKOrr4XRbg8 [youtube.com]

      --
      --- That's not flying: that's... falling... with more luck than I have. ---
      • (Score: 2) by hendrikboom on Friday August 02, @01:21PM (2 children)

        by hendrikboom (1125) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @01:21PM (#874601) Homepage

        Being a little deaf, I'm not sure I caught the words at the end of the video. Was it "And you're hot."?

        For people who say, "I'm sorry for your loss", if they actually knew my wife, I reply, "Your loss, too."

        As for not knowing what to say ... There isn't anything to say. That what makes it awkward.

        -- hendrik

        • (Score: 2) by Gaaark on Friday August 02, @02:50PM (1 child)

          by Gaaark (41) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @02:50PM (#874645) Journal

          Jenn tells him to say "I'm sorry for your loss, and move on"

          That is just exactly what he says instead of just "Sorry for your loss" and then moving on.

          So the last part is "Move on".

          --
          --- That's not flying: that's... falling... with more luck than I have. ---
    • (Score: 3, Insightful) by Snow on Tuesday July 30, @04:16PM (8 children)

      by Snow (1601) Subscriber Badge on Tuesday July 30, @04:16PM (#873148) Journal

      I hope you are doing okay.

      • (Score: 5, Interesting) by hendrikboom on Friday August 02, @01:17PM (7 children)

        by hendrikboom (1125) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @01:17PM (#874598) Homepage

        As okay as can be expected, and maybe a bit more. We had 40 years together. She had Parkinson's disease, and I think toward the end I could get along without her better then she could get along without me. So I'd say we are dying in the right order.

        She was a hematologist -- a doctor that treats blood disorders. Eventually her Parkinsons's disease made it impossible to treat patients any more. She hunk in there still, supervising the Hematology lab and reading blood slides. Eventually she had to let that go too -- involuntary movements at the microscope made her seasick.

        After that she used her medical knowledge to keep up on research into Parkinsons's disease and present the latest developments at a Parkinsons's disease support group. She kept as active as she could toward the end.

        It wasn't Parkinsons's that killed her, though. It was a leaky heart valve.

        I find myself with a lot of free time now. I hadn't realized how much of my time was spent taking care of her. I'm only gradually finding worthwhile things to do.

        I've had forty good years with her, and children from her, and that is a gift.

        -- hendrik

        • (Score: 2) by FatPhil on Sunday August 04, @11:58AM (1 child)

          by FatPhil (863) <pc-soylentNO@SPAMasdf.fi> on Sunday August 04, @11:58AM (#875462) Homepage
          I extend my sympathies. Long relationships like that can be very precious - I hope you can smile knowing that you got 40 years of one. Us youngsters (*cough*) can but dream... (But I'm half way there!)
          --
          I know I'm God, because every time I pray to him, I find I'm talking to myself.
          • (Score: 3, Insightful) by hendrikboom on Tuesday August 06, @03:39AM

            by hendrikboom (1125) Subscriber Badge on Tuesday August 06, @03:39AM (#876309) Homepage

            I can smile, remembering the 40 years together. That doesn't stop me from crying sometimes too. Sometimes tears and laughter are the same thing.

        • (Score: 2) by JoeMerchant on Tuesday August 06, @01:16AM (4 children)

          by JoeMerchant (3937) on Tuesday August 06, @01:16AM (#876261)

          Friend and neighbor of ours was a speech therapist. Around age 45 she got a rapid onset degenerative brain-motor thing, first noticed it when her speech got slurry, within a year after that she was stuck in bed navigating a computer mouse by optical tracking of a ball on the end or her nose, and within 3 months of hitting that stage she was gone. Left her husband and teenage daughter behind - pretty rough thing, but... I question whether, from this day forward, I'd rather have 10 years of "good life" and a quick exit, or 20 years of something degenerative and crippling like Parkinson's? I'm pretty sure I still lean toward the rapid, relatively graceful exit - not that we get to choose.

          • (Score: 2) by hendrikboom on Tuesday August 06, @04:37AM (3 children)

            by hendrikboom (1125) Subscriber Badge on Tuesday August 06, @04:37AM (#876335) Homepage

            Gwen lasted something like 13 years since first diagnosis. There are things you can do to keep Parkinson's at bay. There are drugs to supply the missing dopamine (which is very difficult to dose consistently for a lot of biological reasons). And there is exercise, which is quite effective.

            She was very aggressively active, all the way to the end. When she was forced to abandon one productive activity, she found another. All the way until her heart failed.

            The slow degeneration was there, but it wasn't as terrible as you made it sound. It certainly helped that, retired, I had the time to assist her.

            • (Score: 2) by JoeMerchant on Tuesday August 06, @01:11PM (2 children)

              by JoeMerchant (3937) on Tuesday August 06, @01:11PM (#876489)

              Parkinsons is a broad term - my Grandfather was diagnosed with it for 20 years, but it didn't really do much to him beyond making it hard to write legibly... Michael J Fox, on the other hand, seems to be struggling quite a bit more. When the first DBS coverage hit 60 minutes, three generations of our family got together to watch it. The before/after improvement was indeed dramatic, but the after condition was still far worse than anything we have experienced in our family.

              You're absolutely right about: use it or lose it. Staying as active as possible is the best protection for continued function of those activities.

              • (Score: 2) by hendrikboom on Tuesday August 06, @02:06PM (1 child)

                by hendrikboom (1125) Subscriber Badge on Tuesday August 06, @02:06PM (#876518) Homepage

                My (probably oversimplified) understanding of the effect of exercise on Parkinson's is that you keep training neurons to do what the dying neurons used to do. Of course that stops when you run out of neurons.

                • (Score: 2) by JoeMerchant on Tuesday August 06, @02:48PM

                  by JoeMerchant (3937) on Tuesday August 06, @02:48PM (#876549)

                  That is one important factor. At work we did some experimental treatment of Parkinsons that involved improvement of circulation, that had some fairly dramatic effects, not a cure by any means, but a reduction in symptoms of "shuffle-gait" which increased ability to continue activities / slow the decline. Shutdown of circulation accompanies many conditions, including chronic bed rest, and accelerates decline of many functions.

    • (Score: 2) by jimbrooking on Wednesday July 31, @10:02PM (1 child)

      by jimbrooking (3465) Subscriber Badge on Wednesday July 31, @10:02PM (#873743)

      My wife died on May 26, 2003. Still not "over it".

      • (Score: 3, Insightful) by hendrikboom on Friday August 02, @01:04PM

        by hendrikboom (1125) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @01:04PM (#874593) Homepage

        You never will be "over it". My first wife died in 1972. I still occasionally think of her and cry silently. It took me almost a decade to be ready to start over again.

    • (Score: 1) by zoward on Sunday August 04, @06:15PM (1 child)

      by zoward (4734) Subscriber Badge on Sunday August 04, @06:15PM (#875605)

      Condolences, man.

    • (Score: 2) by tangomargarine on Wednesday August 07, @06:16PM

      by tangomargarine (667) on Wednesday August 07, @06:16PM (#877175)

      I've never been a fan of the "widow vs widower" terminology. Doesn't "widower" make it sound like it's his fault his wife died? Widower, one who widows, vs widow, one who was widowed. Action verb

      --
      "Is that really true?" "I just spent the last hour telling you to think for yourself! Didn't you hear anything I said?"
    • (Score: 2) by All Your Lawn Are Belong To Us on Thursday August 08, @10:44PM

      by All Your Lawn Are Belong To Us (6553) Subscriber Badge on Thursday August 08, @10:44PM (#877660) Journal

      I am sorry, especially if you're experiencing that awkward phrase when those around you may be returning to regular behaviors but you're still acutely feeling grief. Which may not be you (either in your friends behaviors or your own grief response), but it often happens around the 2-3 month range so I felt obligated to share it. I've never met anyone who lost a spouse who had it easy, no matter what age or length of marriage.

      --
      Discard all straight-edged knives! KEEP AMERICA SERRATE!
  • (Score: 2) by jelizondo on Tuesday July 30, @12:36AM (1 child)

    by jelizondo (653) Subscriber Badge on Tuesday July 30, @12:36AM (#872931)

    Divorced, twice. One male from the first marriage, two females from the second. All independent adults now.

    Someone else wrote they are recently widowed, and I did not want to be utterly insensitive, so I'll post it here:

    You lucky bastard! I had to divorce my wife and pay thru the nose for the privilege!

    Very sorry, I just had to get it out.

    • (Score: 2) by hendrikboom on Friday August 02, @01:25PM

      by hendrikboom (1125) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @01:25PM (#874603) Homepage

      If your relationship comes to the point where divorce become the only good answer, I get your point.

      Mine didn't. I'm grateful for the 40 years I had with her.

      So I suppose I'm doubly lucky. Having a good relationship and also not having a divorce.

      I'm sorry you didn't have it as easy.

      -- hendrik

  • (Score: 2) by Gaaark on Tuesday July 30, @01:17PM (7 children)

    by Gaaark (41) Subscriber Badge on Tuesday July 30, @01:17PM (#873072) Journal

    Al Bundy.

    --
    --- That's not flying: that's... falling... with more luck than I have. ---
    • (Score: 1) by Ethanol-fueled on Friday August 02, @12:37AM (6 children)

      by Ethanol-fueled (2792) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @12:37AM (#874384) Homepage

      Ted Bundy.

      • (Score: 2) by Gaaark on Friday August 02, @01:40AM (5 children)

        by Gaaark (41) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @01:40AM (#874399) Journal

        Have I got a chair for you: it's electrifying!

        --
        --- That's not flying: that's... falling... with more luck than I have. ---
        • (Score: 1, Insightful) by Ethanol-fueled on Friday August 02, @02:11AM (4 children)

          by Ethanol-fueled (2792) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @02:11AM (#874409) Homepage

          Let's line up Saudi Arabia and Israel for the crimes of 9/11 first.

          I'm waiting.

          • (Score: 3, Insightful) by Gaaark on Friday August 02, @01:31PM (2 children)

            by Gaaark (41) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @01:31PM (#874606) Journal

            Meh...line up George Bush first.

            --
            --- That's not flying: that's... falling... with more luck than I have. ---
            • (Score: 3, Insightful) by FatPhil on Sunday August 04, @12:02PM (1 child)

              by FatPhil (863) <pc-soylentNO@SPAMasdf.fi> on Sunday August 04, @12:02PM (#875464) Homepage
              Make sure that war criminal Blair is human-centipeded to him at the time. He swallowed all Bush's shit back in the day when he was in power, no reason he shouldn't still be when he's literally in power.
              --
              I know I'm God, because every time I pray to him, I find I'm talking to myself.
          • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @08:52AM

            by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @08:52AM (#875436)

            That could take awhile. You can do a slew of the population of male Australian aboriginals while you're at it.

  • (Score: 2) by edIII on Tuesday July 30, @10:55PM (21 children)

    by edIII (791) on Tuesday July 30, @10:55PM (#873310)

    Is it legal to marry an HVAC unit?

    • (Score: 2) by TheFool on Wednesday July 31, @12:52PM

      by TheFool (7105) on Wednesday July 31, @12:52PM (#873511)

      It wasn't a few years ago, but I bet you could convince someone to let you do it in 2019.

    • (Score: 5, Funny) by Freeman on Wednesday July 31, @06:36PM (13 children)

      by Freeman (732) on Wednesday July 31, @06:36PM (#873670) Journal

      LGBTQIA+HVAC, seems legit.

      --
      "I said in my haste, All men are liars." Psalm 116:11
      • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @01:13AM (2 children)

        by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @01:13AM (#875326)

        Soon we will see HVAC Pride Parade.

        • (Score: 1, Touché) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @12:25PM (1 child)

          by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @12:25PM (#875477)

          I've heard those HVAC's suck.

          • (Score: 2) by MostCynical on Friday August 09, @12:56PM

            by MostCynical (2589) on Friday August 09, @12:56PM (#877874)

            Don't you want them to blow you?

            --
            tau = 300. Greek circles must have been weird.
      • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @10:37AM (9 children)

        by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @10:37AM (#875445)

        What? Fuck it. From now on I'm writting it regular: LGBT[A-Z]*
        and hope they won't start to use utf asian characters.

        • (Score: 2) by FatPhil on Sunday August 04, @12:04PM (8 children)

          by FatPhil (863) <pc-soylentNO@SPAMasdf.fi> on Sunday August 04, @12:04PM (#875465) Homepage
          As a TERF, I'm triggered by the explicit 'T' in that regexp.
          --
          I know I'm God, because every time I pray to him, I find I'm talking to myself.
          • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @12:27PM (3 children)

            by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @12:27PM (#875478)

            Trans-Exlusionary Radical Feminist. Originally just named radical feminism. The basis of radical feminism is that gender is a social construct forced upon people at birth and are roles specifically designed to keep women subordinate to men (masculinity vs.feminity).

            Have you had the operation yet? What will it be in the future? FatPhillipe? FatFran?

            • (Score: 1) by barbara hudson on Friday August 09, @10:23PM (2 children)

              I think you have it backwards. Someone who says they're a TERF has a real hatred towards trans women. I like to trigger TERFs almost as much as I do APK.
              • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday August 10, @10:32AM (1 child)

                by Anonymous Coward on Saturday August 10, @10:32AM (#878164)

                That would make a gynophile the opposite of a TERF, making TERF a misogynist?
                If so, why not just use the word misogynist? Is it too hard to remember how to spell?

          • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @01:02PM (3 children)

            by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @01:02PM (#875488)

            [^:white_heterosexual_male:]*
            There you go.

            • (Score: 2) by janrinok on Wednesday August 07, @07:41AM (2 children)

              by janrinok (52) Subscriber Badge on Wednesday August 07, @07:41AM (#876969) Journal
              I wonder why this is the only one to imply a specific skin colour?
              --
              It's always my fault...
              • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08, @01:54PM

                by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08, @01:54PM (#877454)

                Because all the other minorities have a distinctive identity. And you can't play identity politics without identities.

              • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08, @05:30PM

                by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08, @05:30PM (#877569)

                They are the only ones who want to be so distinguished.....

    • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Friday August 02, @09:08AM

      by Anonymous Coward on Friday August 02, @09:08AM (#874529)

      Only if the HVAC unit consents.

    • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @12:13PM

      by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @12:13PM (#875472)

      I really don't know, but a friend seriously wanted to 'marry' his 'waifu'.
      Yes. Seriously. Got pictures to prove it.

    • (Score: 2) by JoeMerchant on Tuesday August 06, @01:23AM

      by JoeMerchant (3937) on Tuesday August 06, @01:23AM (#876263)

      Local radio station had a bit about finding love in the grocery store: "Marry Me, Ice Cream!"

    • (Score: 1) by barbara hudson on Friday August 09, @10:14PM (1 child)

      Depends - does it identify as human?
      • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday August 10, @10:34AM

        by Anonymous Coward on Saturday August 10, @10:34AM (#878165)

        Negative. It is a meat popsicle.

    • (Score: 2) by OrugTor on Wednesday August 21, @04:13PM

      by OrugTor (5147) on Wednesday August 21, @04:13PM (#883202)

      Yes, in Japan.

  • (Score: 2, Interesting) by Sulla on Wednesday July 31, @07:12AM (7 children)

    by Sulla (5173) Subscriber Badge on Wednesday July 31, @07:12AM (#873457) Journal

    For the people on here who occasionally have arguments/fights with your spouse, did your parents or their parents have arguments/fights?

    --
    "If lying to Congress is an enforceable crime, we are going to need more jails."
    • (Score: 4, Insightful) by Freeman on Wednesday July 31, @06:46PM (4 children)

      by Freeman (732) on Wednesday July 31, @06:46PM (#873674) Journal

      If you don't have arguments/fights with your spouse, you're doing something wrong. You won't ever, always agree, on everything. Just make sure your arguments/fights are handled in a rational, loving way.

      --
      "I said in my haste, All men are liars." Psalm 116:11
      • (Score: 2, Funny) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 01, @02:00PM

        by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 01, @02:00PM (#874017)

        The wife is always right... even if she isn't.

      • (Score: 3, Informative) by cmdrklarg on Friday August 02, @08:27PM (1 child)

        by cmdrklarg (5048) on Friday August 02, @08:27PM (#874818)

        Yup, that's what did my marriage in: poor communication. That and our different ways of handling our anger. I would become visibly angry, but generally keep it to myself and in a day or so, it would subside as I sorted it out in my head. Her? I could always tell; she would stop talking to me. But I (foolishly) thought she would process it the same as I did. NOPE. She never let go of it. We almost NEVER fought.

        Then out of the blue comes the "we need to go to marriage counseling". Huh? Okay... find out it is mostly her baggage. But in the end, it was nothing I could have done. In retrospect, I should have dragged out of her what had put a burr under her saddle and dealt with it. What was it? I had said NO to a second child. I get that it's an important thing for a mother, but dammit a child needs to have both parents on board with the idea, right?

        Oh, we get along fine now, we mostly keep to ourselves except for things involving our son. I do help her out, and vice versa. Heck, I'd take her back if she'd ever ask me (that will almost certainly never happen however).

        --
        THE SOFTWARE, IT NO WORKY!
        • (Score: 3, Insightful) by FatPhil on Sunday August 04, @12:09PM

          by FatPhil (863) <pc-soylentNO@SPAMasdf.fi> on Sunday August 04, @12:09PM (#875468) Homepage
          Children, thus numbers thereof, are a huge thing in long-term relationships. Super-happy my partner is exactly as 100% childfree as I am. Genetically, it's a terrible trait to have, but we can live with that - being a slave to genetics isn't really being yourself anyway.
          --
          I know I'm God, because every time I pray to him, I find I'm talking to myself.
      • (Score: -1, Spam) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08, @01:58PM

        by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08, @01:58PM (#877458)

        Just make sure your arguments/fights are handled in a rational, loving way.

        That can't last. Nobody can follow the loving way with wrinkled dry and flaccid love organs.

    • (Score: 2) by Gaaark on Friday August 02, @03:01PM

      by Gaaark (41) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @03:01PM (#874649) Journal

      My wife and I fight when one or both of us is tired. When on vacation, we never fight.

      Her family fought out loud, whereas my parents fought quietly: my mom said he once didn't talk to her for 3 days.

      So marrying my wife was a shock: she wanted to hash it out loudly, while I wanted to just shut down.

      --
      --- That's not flying: that's... falling... with more luck than I have. ---
    • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @12:31PM

      by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @12:31PM (#875480)

      Not really. One or two major blowups but that's about it. Mostly they just hit the kids.

  • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Wednesday July 31, @01:30PM

    by Anonymous Coward on Wednesday July 31, @01:30PM (#873524)

    That's illegal where I live!

  • (Score: -1, Troll) by Anonymous Coward on Wednesday July 31, @10:28PM (15 children)

    by Anonymous Coward on Wednesday July 31, @10:28PM (#873754)

    The rest of you are slackers. Get on it.

    Heck, I'm a slacker. I only started at 25, with a woman of 22. We could have started at least 7 years earlier, gaining several more kids. We also could have used fertility drugs each time, possibly quadrupling our results.

    Anything less than 8 is pitiful. It's a sign you prioritize toys over humans. It's like telling your pitiful little family that you don't love them as much as you love material objects.

    • (Score: 3, Funny) by PartTimeZombie on Wednesday July 31, @10:55PM

      by PartTimeZombie (4827) on Wednesday July 31, @10:55PM (#873766)

      It's like telling your pitiful little family that you don't love them as much as you love material objects.

      I don't need to tell them, they are well aware.

    • (Score: 2) by richtopia on Wednesday July 31, @11:59PM

      by richtopia (3160) Subscriber Badge on Wednesday July 31, @11:59PM (#873788) Homepage Journal

      It's like telling your pitiful little family that you don't love them as much as you love material objects.

      Single, never married, no kids. I've never been disillusioned with my priorities.

    • (Score: 1, Funny) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 01, @10:01AM (3 children)

      by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 01, @10:01AM (#873936)

      Sounds like my Uncle, who wanted cheap farm laborers. Later divorced and married a Mexican. Catholics! Meh!

      • (Score: 1) by Ethanol-fueled on Friday August 02, @12:38AM (2 children)

        by Ethanol-fueled (2792) Subscriber Badge on Friday August 02, @12:38AM (#874385) Homepage

        Wow, I bet the barn looks like a roach motel.

        • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Friday August 02, @06:40AM (1 child)

          by Anonymous Coward on Friday August 02, @06:40AM (#874505)

          Ethanol_fuddled aspires to be Ego, his own planet! Careful when those kids come home, Big Boy!!

          • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08, @05:33PM

            by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 08, @05:33PM (#877571)

            Blown up by a tree and raccoon, that just seems so fitting.

    • (Score: 1, Insightful) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 01, @02:08PM (3 children)

      by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 01, @02:08PM (#874022)

      Yeah, because we have so many spare resources on this world … no, wait, we don't.

      • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @12:23PM (1 child)

        by Anonymous Coward on Sunday August 04, @12:23PM (#875476)

        Most population experts think planet Earth can support about 10 billion people, and that when our population reaches that number, it will start to decline. This will likely happen by the year 2100.

        World Population Clock [worldometers.info]: 7.7 Billion People (2019)

        • (Score: 2) by Arik on Friday August 16, @06:53AM

          by Arik (4543) on Friday August 16, @06:53AM (#880929) Journal
          They're almost certainly wrong, because we'll develop lots of ways to save space by then.

          Unfortunately.

          I don't relish the thought of people being raised in boxes.
          --
          "The *other* sort of Marxist."
      • (Score: 1) by barbara hudson on Friday August 09, @10:34PM

        Come on, on this site of all places 12 kids is fine because soylent green is people.
    • (Score: 1, Flamebait) by Azuma Hazuki on Sunday August 04, @05:22PM (4 children)

      by Azuma Hazuki (5086) on Sunday August 04, @05:22PM (#875579) Journal

      You are a weird little troll. I've never understood what would make an incel fantasize about this sort of thing...

      --
      I am "that girl" your mother warned you about...
      • (Score: -1, Troll) by Anonymous Coward on Monday August 05, @01:50PM (3 children)

        by Anonymous Coward on Monday August 05, @01:50PM (#875940)

        Racist!
        The poster is obviously a proud child proliferating muslim.
        How can you, of all people, pass judgement on this. I am shocked, shocked I tell you.

        • (Score: 2) by Azuma Hazuki on Monday August 05, @10:14PM (2 children)

          by Azuma Hazuki (5086) on Monday August 05, @10:14PM (#876206) Journal

          1) Muslim isn't a race
          2) You're not a very good troll.
          3) You forgot to log in, NPC-$BIGNUM

          --
          I am "that girl" your mother warned you about...
          • (Score: 1) by barbara hudson on Friday August 09, @10:36PM (1 child)

            So what if Muslim isn't a race? Plenty of religions say "go forth and multiply,"
            • (Score: 2) by Arik on Friday August 16, @06:51AM

              by Arik (4543) on Friday August 16, @06:51AM (#880928) Journal
              Muslim is not a race indicates that he who cried "racist!" and then attempted to justify it by presuming that the post was anti-muslim deserved his troll mod.

              It's indeed true that many religions, not just islam, preach the same thing.
              --
              "The *other* sort of Marxist."
  • (Score: 2) by FatPhil on Sunday August 04, @11:48AM (7 children)

    by FatPhil (863) <pc-soylentNO@SPAMasdf.fi> on Sunday August 04, @11:48AM (#875459) Homepage
    Legally recognised in Finland (where we first lived together, in the noughties), and in Estonia. Doesn't give us any particular rights (such as inheritance in cases of intestacy), apart from residency for the westpondian leech milking my EU citizenship status!

    And since you asked, you may congratulate us on our 21st anniversary last week!
    --
    I know I'm God, because every time I pray to him, I find I'm talking to myself.
    • (Score: 2) by JoeMerchant on Tuesday August 06, @01:25AM (1 child)

      by JoeMerchant (3937) on Tuesday August 06, @01:25AM (#876266)
      • (Score: 3, Informative) by tangomargarine on Wednesday August 07, @06:11PM

        by tangomargarine (667) on Wednesday August 07, @06:11PM (#877174)

        I'm guessing they mean "West of the Pond", i.e. across the Atlantic, i.e. American

        --
        "Is that really true?" "I just spent the last hour telling you to think for yourself! Didn't you hear anything I said?"
    • (Score: 2) by Rupert Pupnick on Wednesday August 07, @02:23PM (1 child)

      by Rupert Pupnick (7277) Subscriber Badge on Wednesday August 07, @02:23PM (#877075) Journal

      Not to be judgmental or anything, but over here we’d say you were naughty in the noughties.

    • (Score: 2) by fraxinus-tree on Sunday August 11, @07:18PM

      by fraxinus-tree (5590) on Sunday August 11, @07:18PM (#878941)

      Cohabitting without marriage. Not legally recognized here (Bulgaria) and generally easier and better for the partners and their children.

    • (Score: 2) by Arik on Friday August 16, @06:48AM (1 child)

      by Arik (4543) on Friday August 16, @06:48AM (#880927) Journal
      "Doesn't give us any particular rights (such as inheritance in cases of intestacy), apart from residency for the westpondian leech milking my EU citizenship status!"

      Wierd, in Sweden it's called 'sambo' and as far as I understand it's the nearest equivalent to what we Westpondians call 'common law marriage,' with attendant inheritance presumptions etc. I'm surprised Finland would be so different on that.

      --
      "The *other* sort of Marxist."
      • (Score: 2) by FatPhil on Friday August 16, @07:43AM

        by FatPhil (863) <pc-soylentNO@SPAMasdf.fi> on Friday August 16, @07:43AM (#880936) Homepage
        Rumours of Sweden's influence over Finland are greatly exagerated. Helsinki was nothing but a group of fisherman's wooden huts when the Swedes were last relevant.
        --
        I know I'm God, because every time I pray to him, I find I'm talking to myself.
  • (Score: 3, Interesting) by VLM on Monday August 05, @12:13PM (3 children)

    by VLM (445) Subscriber Badge on Monday August 05, @12:13PM (#875885)

    We (as a group) seem to skew pretty old, genx or older. I'm the same age as Fat Phil implies; graduated HS soon after the fall of the Berlin wall.

    Strange Berlin Wall fact: I was born after it was built so it seemed eternal to me like the pyramids, although it only stood for 28 years... and came down 30 years ago... so its already been down longer than it was up, sorta.

    • (Score: 2) by All Your Lawn Are Belong To Us on Thursday August 08, @10:57PM

      by All Your Lawn Are Belong To Us (6553) Subscriber Badge on Thursday August 08, @10:57PM (#877665) Journal

      Without going much more deeply than you did, I had graduated High School before the Berlin wall fell, but not by very long... especially from this end of it.

      --
      Discard all straight-edged knives! KEEP AMERICA SERRATE!
    • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday August 10, @10:38AM (1 child)

      by Anonymous Coward on Saturday August 10, @10:38AM (#878168)

      We don't need no education
      We don't need no thought control

      • (Score: 2) by bart9h on Thursday August 15, @04:16PM

        by bart9h (767) on Thursday August 15, @04:16PM (#880631)

        Nice try, but that The Wall has absolutely nothing to do with the Berlin one.

  • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 22, @04:36PM

    by Anonymous Coward on Thursday August 22, @04:36PM (#883698)

    None of your business.

  • (Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Wednesday August 28, @09:28PM

    by Anonymous Coward on Wednesday August 28, @09:28PM (#886981)

    Where is the "Illegally married" option?

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