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Aziz Ansari & Eric Klinenberg have a story in Nautilus, She'll Text Me, She'll Text Me Not, which looks into the modern-technology challenges of making romantic contact.
Modern romance is stressful—especially when it comes to texting, which is on course to be the new norm for asking someone out. In 2010 only 10 percent of young adults used texts to ask someone out for the first time, compared with 32 percent in 2013. And so, more and more of us find ourselves sitting alone, staring at our phone's screen with a whole range of emotions. But in a strange way, we are all doing it together, and we should take solace in the fact that no one has a clue what's going on. So, I decided to look into it myself, but I knew that bozo comedian Aziz Ansari probably couldn't tackle the topic on my own, and so I teamed up with New York University sociologist Eric Klinenberg. We designed a massive research project during 2013 and 2014, which involved conducting focus groups and interviews with people worldwide, and also interviewing eminent researchers who have dedicated their careers to studying modern romance. We learned a lot about finding love today, including what to do once you fire off a text or receive one.
One area where there was a lot of debate was the amount of time one should wait to text back. Several people subscribed to the notion of doubling the response time. (They write back in five minutes, you wait 10, etc.) This way you achieve the upper hand and constantly seem busier and less available than your counterpart. Others thought waiting just a few minutes was enough to prove you had something important in your life besides your phone. Some thought you should double, but occasionally throw in a quick response to not seem so regimented (nothing too long, though!). Some people swore by waiting 1.25 times longer. Others argued they found three minutes to be just right. There were also those who were so fed up with the games that they thought receiving timely responses free of games was refreshing and showed confidence.
What technique(s) have you tried and how did they work out for you?
(Score: 5, Insightful) by Phoenix666 on Saturday February 13 2016, @02:32PM
I dunno, guys, some news days are better than others. Sometimes you get epochal stories like LIGO's confirmation of gravity waves or the discovery of the Higgs Boson or water on Mars, other days you get Love in the Time of Texting or Robotic Vaginas. Tech touches many aspects of our lives, and not all of them are ponderous.
One solution is for people who aren't happy with what comes over the wires to chip in their own story submissions. Copy & paste the story title, grab a couple paragraphs that convey the gist and insert them in blockquote tags, throw in a link, and you're set. Takes about 2-3 minutes when you're rolling, and you won't be quite so aggravated as you would be if you thoroughly read and carefully summarized the story only to see it get 2 comments, half of which is a slam for the crappy job you did summarizing it.
Another solution is to skip over the stories that strike you as frivolous or whatever. Takes the least effort.
The least desireable option is to beat up on the people who give of their free time to make the community work, be they the coders, editors, submitters, moderators, or other commenters.
Washington DC delenda est.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday February 13 2016, @03:54PM
Takes about 2-3 minutes when you're rolling,
But it takes so much more when you're trolling.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday February 13 2016, @05:02PM
And I am taking my free time to tell you how to send in better summaries. I vote for better submissions, if fewer, than quantities of substandard ones.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday February 13 2016, @05:46PM
Learn to skim or just skip. I personally don't mind the long summaries cause I can not read whatever doesn't sound interesting and usually I don't need to actually RTFA with a long summary. For volunteer efforts this place runs great.
(Score: 0) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday February 13 2016, @06:10PM
No. You know it's often the discussion that are supposed to be more interesting? Bettter summaries will lead to more RTFA and better discussion.
(Score: 2) by Phoenix666 on Saturday February 13 2016, @11:01PM
Then write them. Nobody's stopping you. You can do it right now. Be sure to register a username so we can properly attribute your genius.
Believe me, you crank out the dozen submissions a day to keep the queue full and I will happily refrain from submitting my (according to you) substandard summaries to terrible stories like these. It might be fun to take a turn in your shoes, being a whiny ingrate.
Washington DC delenda est.
(Score: 2) by Phoenix666 on Saturday February 13 2016, @10:56PM
And I'm taking my free time to tell you to use your free time to submit the perfectly summarized stories you want to see. If something you didn't raise a finger to help with does not please you, then get off your butt and put in some time instead of whining like an entitled child. Or maybe you are an entitled child who does expect the world to spoon-feed him in exactly the manner he desires...?
It's not my job to spoon feed you a thing. Especially when you're coming in as an AC, without the guts to register a username that could, gasp, be anything you want that isn't actually connected to your offline life.
Man up, register a handle, pitch in to build the community. Then maybe the rest of us will consider your mewling.
Washington DC delenda est.