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Historian and TV presenter Lucy Worsley has said romance is dying because it has become "too easy" to meet new people via dating apps and the net.
In an interview with the Radio Times, she said couples no longer faced the obstacles that had traditionally made for strong romantic encounters.
The "slow exquisite torture" of love in Jane Austen novels no longer existed in the age of Grindr and Tinder, she said.
But relationship experts say not everybody is good at commitment.
"There have always been a proportion of people that find it hard to form relationships and, rather than trying to overcome difficulties, who have moved on more quickly to others," counsellor and therapist Peter Saddington, from relationship support service Relate, told the BBC.
On the other hand, people who do marry after meeting through a dating app might be less likely to divorce.
(Score: 3, Insightful) by Francis on Saturday October 10 2015, @06:06PM
Because half the population doesn't benefit from anything in the Jungle Book. Whereas women have benefited a lot from making men fight over them.
Thankfully, most women have gotten to the point where they realize how stupid that is. The ones that haven't, well, they don't deserve a decent guy. I've never understood why I should be expected to invest a lot of time and energy into getting a woman's attention or deal with countless rejections because women don't feel like putting any effort into it.
It does not make any sense.
Dating apps are awesome because the limits and lines are more easily understood. If a woman is on there looking for a boyfriend, that's permission to chat her up. As long as I've read the profile and think we might be a match, the only responsibility I have beyond that is conducting myself respectfully.
Compare that to the dating scene in the real world where you have no guarantee that a given woman is even available, let alone interested and where opinions about how to proceed vary greatly. And where the line between sexual harassment and a fun pursuit can be rather blurry at best.
Most dating should be online, it's a much better system. And if some creep approaches you, you're not physically there anyways. It's much less likely that anything bad will happen, as long as you're careful about how you do the screening and where you meet.
(Score: 2, Insightful) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday October 10 2015, @07:04PM
It's a much better system only if you're foolish enough to put your personal information online. You might wish to give corporations all your information on a silver platter, but I refuse.
(Score: 2, Interesting) by Francis on Saturday October 10 2015, @07:19PM
You do realize that you don't need to put much information up, right? And you don't even need to give them your real name.
We've reached a point where you don't have a viable choice any more about information about you being out there. Shy of moving to a shack in the middle of the woods, your information is out there. The question here is how much are you willing to pay to keep that information secret?
I don't like putting my information out there, but around here nobody dates unless they meet online. I haven't met a single person here in the last 15 years that actually met in person here. Either they met online or they met somewhere else and moved here. People just don't talk to each other and other than hook ups, they don't hit on each other either.
It's quite dangerous to try and get a date in person because you're likely to get accused of sexual harassment or worse.
(Score: -1, Troll) by Anonymous Coward on Saturday October 10 2015, @09:10PM
You do realize that you don't need to put much information up, right? And you don't even need to give them your real name.
I also see little reason to give them any information whatsoever, or contribute to places where it is encouraged to surrender your information to corporate fools. I'm also not on any social media trash, and anyone who is foolish.
I don't like putting my information out there
You just said you didn't need to.
(Score: 2) by captain normal on Sunday October 11 2015, @04:20AM
So what name do you use? Rock Longfellow? or Daddy Warbucks?
Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not to his own facts"- --Daniel Patrick Moynihan--
(Score: 1) by Francis on Sunday October 11 2015, @04:56AM
You know just giving your first name is as much as anybody has any need for. You should be skyping or talking on the phone before you go on a date anyways, no reason to give more than the first name on the site itself.
The point though is that you are having to give some personal information, but even if you're hyper-paranoid chances are there are a ton of bits of information about you floating around. At least the better dating sites allow you to actually get some benefit out of any information you put in.
Unlike Google and FB that pretty much rape you for information and give peanuts.
(Score: 2) by Joe Desertrat on Sunday October 11 2015, @05:37PM
Most dating should be online, it's a much better system. And if some creep approaches you, you're not physically there anyways. It's much less likely that anything bad will happen, as long as you're careful about how you do the screening and where you meet.
Seems like there is an opportunity for someone to start creating virtual nightclubs like the one in Snow Crash. Have users pay a cover charge to get in, charge for virtual drinks and flowers and so on. No one will ever have to leave home again!