Fair point. It would seem that the sweet spot, as it were, is somewhere in between despotism and willy nilly democracy. From what I've seen, we've been thus far not straying too far to one side or the other here...there's a core of folks involved in executive tasks, some that take direction a bit in the form of editing or other general labor, and then the majority of us plebs that need to be whipped and prodded just to go vote on the site name.
But yes, leaders, don't be afraid to lead. You can be sure we'll be happy to let you know when you're doing it wrong.